Over It And On With It

If you have ever dealt with the pain of rejection, this episode will help!  Perhaps you’ve heard, “Rejection is God’s Protection” but the process of rejection feels pretty awful until we learn what it is really about. Our caller today, Alex, has courageously opened up to another person and shared her truth with them. But the other person did not reciprocate her feelings. She asks me how she can get over her heartbreak and rejection and get on with her life.  If you have ever felt the pain of rejection or find yourself in an avoidance trap, listen to the tips I give Alex at the end of our call. You can also find resources in my book, Expectation Hangover, to help heal yourself.  We also talk about speaking our truth - which takes takes courage. We ponder on how our message will be received; but if we believe in our truth, there is value in getting it out into the world.   When our truth needs to be told to another person and they don’t realize the outcome we are hoping for we often take it personally. We perce

I love the week of Thanksgiving here in the U.S. because gratitude is on everyone’s mind. Cultivating a consciousness of gratitude is a spiritual practice – it’s a MUST for anyone who is committed to living a life of love. Plus, when we are aware of what we do have, we are a lot less inclined to obsess about all the things we don’t (and have fewer expectation hangovers!). Enjoying this special Coaches Corner from me where the focus is on gratitude.

This special episode has two career coaching sessions, the first with Nick and the second with Lindsey. Both Nick and Lindsey are searching for a way to use their passions and to share their gifts with the world. Nick’s session focuses on his spirituality and whether or not his current position allows him to elevate the consciousness of others with his law practice. Lindsey’s session concentrates on her transitions and her indecisiveness around using her creativity to reach her end goal. Lessons from both calls are that we don’t need to leave jobs that are not creative enough; we can be creative and passionate in our current situations. If we honor where we are now by embracing our passions and our spirituality, we will end up spreading light to others. If you yearn to make more of an impact in your work life, drastic changes to satiate your desires are unnecessary and often cause additional discomfort. Increasing our vibrations will make everything we do a more spiritual experience. Coaching Session #1 - Ni

There seems to be a lot to worry in life that we cannot control everything. But worrying is a HUGE drain of your energy and completely useless so in this Coaches Corner, Christine offers you a way to stop worrying, or at the very least dramatically reduce it.   Worry gives us a false sense of control when we are uncertain about someone or something. When faced with the unknown, worrying is often the default habit we slip into as it gives us a way to seemingly deal with whatever our concern is. In today’s episode, Christine breaks down worry for you and teaches you a technique that you can start using today to transform from worrywart to dream manifestor!

Our caller today is Sha who is a millennial. Millennials are today’s 20 and early 30 somethings. Many millennials are unjustly thought to be narcissistic, entitled and said to have no work ethic. Sha is experiencing residue from having many of her decisions made for her during her adolescence. And it’s not just Sha who is confronting these issues; many millennials feel the effects of over-parenting and the accompanying pressures that linger from missing out on important developmental stages. Sha and I uncover her validation issues and examine her inability to stick to a routine. She becomes aware of her past programming and I offer her tools to assist her in reprogramming herself. One important tool is to understand that what she wants to hear from others is what she actually wants to hear from herself. We also explore ways to relieve anxiety and self-trust issues through being in the present. After the coaching session, I offer a special guided meditation; so go to a quiet place where you can close your eyes

In this coaches corner Christine discusses whether or not it’s possible to change someone else.  Consider: Is there someone in your life you really hope will change? Do you find yourself taking on the responsibility for other people’s transformation? Do you even get annoyed when you see someone you care about not living into the potential you see in them? Christine explains why we are tempted to change others and teaches you how to let go of expectations of other people. You will learn that it is not your job or your right to save anyone along with some tips on how you actually can make an impact on the lives of others.

This episode will support you in getting through and to the other side of any kind of loss. My coaching call with Regina today uncovers the challenges she is having with grief over the loss of her husband. She says she regrets not being the best mother in the world and not living the life she wanted to live. She’s is questioning her purpose and experiencing quite a bit of apathy in her life. Regina experiences an “aha” when she realizes she is able to create the positive future she desires. Take note of Regina’s tone of voice before my coaching as she describes beating herself up and then again after we discuss her ability to practice self-love. Regina shared her progress with me in an email after our session. She writes “I’ve started forgiving myself and when I find myself in a negative thought I stop and think “this isn’t self-love”. It’s a reminder to all of us to live, not just exist. Find something you want to live for, even it seems silly and give yourself permission to love.   Consider/Ask Yourself: H

Hi and welcome back to my over and on with it podcast. I’m recording today from my home state of Texas. I love being here and spending time with my family, especially my two nephews. They live in a realm of never-ending possibilities and abundant curiosity. It’s refreshing. Our call today is from Maya. Maya wonders if she should use her proven brute force tactics to manifest her dreams, but she understands it might not be the way to manifest this one. Realizing that the mind doesn’t know the difference between a well-imagined thought and reality can help Maya start manifesting her dream right now. If she aligns her vibrations to her desires she will start to make choices which pull her closer to her dream. So, how do we pursue our dreams and not get disappointed? How do we not experience an Expectation Hangover? If we pursue our dreams with high involvement and high intention, but low attachment we are not overly disappointed when our dreams don’t manifest in the manner we thought they would. This allows us t

In this Coaches Corner episode, Christine guides you through a step-by-step process get over betrayal and on with your life!! Betrayal is one of the human experiences that can be so painful and hard to understand. It hurts when you feel lied to or when someone you thought you could trust shows you something different. When we feel betrayed or like our trust is broken, it’s natural to want to hang on to the anger, resentment, blame and “how could she” or “I can’t believe he” thoughts. But this keeps us in victim consciousness and only perpetuates our suffering.  Listen to learn how to get over it and on with it!

Do you know that every challenge you face presents an amazing opportunity for healing and growth? That is why I am so passionate about Expectation Hangovers - because they are doorways to transformation. We do not want to relate to Expectation Hangovers as victims because it prevents us from leveraging the learnings! Disappointment happens FOR you, not TO you. Expectation Hangovers teach us: 1. Control is an illusion 2. Our comfort zone is a trap 3. True fulfillment comes from inside 4. The Universe does not punish us My call with Nadine is about overcoming the Expectation Hangover of a job loss and breakup We explore why we put pressure on ourselves to not make mistakes and how our past is able to influence us even though we may not recognize it. Remember, if you point your compass towards spirituality and honor your feelings, you can use your soul’s inner wisdom to learn to love and to heal yourself. The door of opportunity exists for you to heal and transform after you experience an Expectation Hangover. C

This call is for all you do-ers and over-achievers out there. We find ourselves in a time in which we wear our busyness like a badge of honor. We define ourselves by what we do. And when something we define ourselves by, such as a job, goes away we find ourselves with an Expectation Hangover. An Expectation Hangover is disappointment. It’s when one of three things happen: 1.) Something doesn’t turn out like we planned 2.) Something does turn out like we planned, but we don’t get the feeling we thought we would have 3.) Life just throws us an unexpected curveball My coaching session with Lisa today uncovers her Expectation Hangover as a huge opportunity for her to just be. If you would like coaching from me in an upcoming episode, contact me at christinehassler.com Consider/Ask Yourself: Can you relate to being busy all the time? Do you often use busyness as a distraction? Do you panic during times when you aren’t busy? Do you have a busy life, but not a fulfilled life? Is it challenging to receive loving supp

We can want to do things in life but just wanting is not enough.  Are you committed to really taking the steps to get there?   Difference makers have commitment and discipline. Passion is not enough. If you feel stuck, invest in yourself, take risks and learn to be comfortable with uncertainty. One thing we need to commit to is shifting our internal states and stories, which means updating our beliefs to get into alignment with what we want. Remember, our outside world is a reflection of our inside world. In this call with Gail, she is at a crossroads when she is thinking of leaving a more analytical job to pursue a more creative path.  She is  getting mixed messages and whether “just follow your passion” is good advice for her to follow. We cover those topics in the call along with a conversation about how her logical mind is an obstacle – and how to make it more of an ally. Please keep your comments and questions coming. It’s so exciting to connect with you.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Does your logical and re

If you’ve ever had challenges with other people in your life, especially parents, you will identify with this episode. On some level, we choose our parents to be our spiritual teachers. Being close becomes complicated as we transition from being a child to being an adult.  Listen in as Jessica is feeling conflicted between wanting to live her own life and wanting her parents approval.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Can you relate to wanting to please people you love? Do you feel obligated to do what your parents want from you? Do you feel guilty if you don’t do what is expected of you?   Jessica’s Question: Jessica’s conservative parents get mad, impose guilt trips and cause her stress when she talks about her boyfriend, who has a daughter. She would like insights on how to hold on to her relationship and respect her parents feelings.   Jessica’s Key Insights and Aha’s: ● It’s her time to have a relationship ● She allows her parents to emotionally manipulate her How to get over it and on with it: ● Be ok with your

I know an area many of you dream about has to do with your finding your purpose and serving others.  You may also long for more freedom. Freedom not only to do something you love, but also have the money and time to spend more time with people you love.  This is the dream of today’s caller, Mike.   . His constant search of products and materials lead him to believe his next steps need to come from outside himself. We discuss how he may be stalling by continuing to do research instead of listening to his internal inspiration and moving forward.  I help Mike realize what his dream truly may be . . . . Often when we feel dreams and longings in our hearts as part psychic ability we all have. We somehow know fulfillment is coming, like a premonition. We just don’t know when. And, even though we may want it now our dreams take time to evolve.   Consider/Ask Yourself: What heartfelt dreams are calling you forward? Do you have a sense of what you want to do but not taking action? Do you start many things but not foll

When Eileen called she said she wanted to move past the breakup of a 3-year relationship. The relationship ended abruptly and she was still searching for closure from the other person. Knowing the purpose of any relationship is for healing and growth, and not happily ever after, we worked through the issue based relationship Eileen had and what the relationship may have taught her about herself. Listen in as Eileen discovers herself in the present and works to nurture her inside reality. Consider/Ask Yourself: Are there any unresolved hurts from previous relationships you are carrying around? Can you see how you have drawn romantic relationships in to help fill a void? Do you feel like you can’t move forward in life because you are stuck in the past? Eileen’s Question: Eileen is ready to move on from a past relationship but doesn’t know what steps to take. She also is seeking closure with the other person, she didn’t feel she received when the relationship ended abruptly. Eileen’s Key Insights and Aha’s: ● Sh

Welcome to my first official episode. I went through 25 different coaching sessions in preparation for this show and trying to decide which one would be first was difficult because all my callers were amazing. I ended up choosing Anneke’s call because we get into the question “Who am I?” and because of the level of vulnerability in this session. We often feel embarrassed and apologize for our emotions, but I think of vulnerability as strength. Remember, we get to choose who we are and not being who we are can be suffocating.  We are not defined by other people’s views of us. We are all born with natural gifts from the divine. It’s up to us to embrace them and use them.   Consider/Ask Yourself: Who am I? Do you feel like you are really living authentically? Are you fully expressing who you are or are you being a version of yourself? Do you struggle with loneliness? Are you in touch with your emotions? Are you concerned about what other people think of you? Anneke’s Question: Anneke is about to make a big caree

Hello and welcome to my introductory podcast. This podcast is fulfilling a dream I had as a little girl. Ever since listening to Dr. Laura Schlessinger on the radio, I have wanted to have a call-in advice show. I loved to hear people gaining insight and having aha moments on the radio in just 5-10 minutes. This show will be a mix of practical and spiritual information to help callers (and the rest of us by default) break free from suffering and disappointment. I’ll be talking a lot about “Expectation Hangovers” which was the tile of my last book.  If you are new to my work you are probably wondering, just what is an expectation hangover? An expectation hangover is when things don’t go according to plan, when we don’t get the sense of fulfillment after something does happen or when life throws us a total curveball. To get our friendship started, I am sharing my story with you and sharing the moment I had of peace and connection. It only lasted a second, but its effects will last a lifetime. I welcome you to sh