Shameless Sex

In this episode we interview author, therapist and overall amazing human Ian Kerner, PhD, all about the power of pleasing the pussy first. He tells us why he thinks this is important plus gives us some tips and tricks along the way.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 11.  About our guest: Ian Kerner, PhD, LMFT (Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist), is a nationally-recognized sex counselor and New York Times bestselling author of numerous books, including, She Comes First, which has been translated into more than a dozen languages and is considered a classic in the genre. Ian is regularly quoted as an expert in various media, with recent features in The Atlantic, the Economist and NPR amongst others and he contributes regularly to CNN. He is the co-Director of the sex therapy program at the Institute for Contemporary Psychotherapy. Ian was born and raised in NYC, where he lives with his wife and two sons and their dogs, Oscar and Jitterbug. Esther Perel has said of him, “Dr. Ian Kerner i

Poet and educator Rae Monet tells us her top tips on how to give head while staying in your power, plus she shares some of her erotic poetry.  About our guest: PoetRaeMonet, a DC native, uses erotic poetry to combat the serious lack of sexual education in America. She began writing in childhood and has gone on to publish 5 books and 2 journals; including 'The Birds, the Bees, and the Boudoir,' which she'll be reading from later tonight. She is a hard-worker, who has developed hand-made candles, accessories, and paintings to complement her books, creating a full-sensory experience for those looking to immerse themselves in sensuality. Her next book, Expose your Inner DIVA, a sexual self-help workbook, will be released later this year. To learn more or to buy Rae's awesome erotic poetry visit https://whichrae.wordpress.com/

In this episode we chat with somatic sexologist and sexological bodyworker Pyasa Neko Siff about circumcision, pelvic release and ways to heal from pelvic trauma.  We also answer a sex question: Why are some women against foreskin? Is it it different than giving oral on an uncut cock? Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 14. About our guest: Pyasa Neko Siff, certified somatic sexologist, sexological bodyworker and speaker is the author of the Intimacy Adventure Playbook. She has recently begun directing her first full-length documentary film: Healing the Hidden Wound, Sex, Spirit, and Circumcision. Pyasa’s journey of healing her own early childhood trauma has inspired her passion to share the profound benefits of somatic sex education around the world. She offers private sessions, group and individualized retreats where she creates a platform for participants to discover a tangible sense of safety in the body; her unique approach addresses, releases, and supports the healing of the sexual co

What makes a really good phone sex operator? What are the tricks to the trade and how can we up our dirty talk game? We also answer a sex question: I want more sexting, sexy talk and words of affirmation from my partner. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 19.  About our guest: Best-selling author, sexpert/educator, phone sex operator, dominatrix, and marketing extraordinaire Amberly Rothfield is a 13-year veteran who’s been featured in Vice, Hustler, Input, Reason, AVN, XBIZ, and YNOT, written for Slutty Girl Problems, and appeared on Holly Randall’s Unfiltered podcast. She struck gold as a phone sex operator on Niteflirt. Her breakout book How I Made $10,000 A Month As A Phone Sex Operator has been an inspirational manual for entrepreneurs and helped thousands of cam girls, phone sex operators, and clip store producers find success in the XXX world. She recently launched Master Classes are geared at indie models and companies with proven marketing techniques to take their brands to the nex

Tune in as we chat with Somatic Sex and Relationship Coach Kat Nantz about her journey as she learned how to heal chronic pain through pleasure.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 12.  We also answer a sex question about working with back pain during sex.  About our guest: Kat Nantz is a trauma informed Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach who believes you are your own greatest healer, and her job is to bring you home to the wisdom that lives in your body. After having 17 surgeries as a young child, spending years being led out of her body and being objectified in medical settings, she had a powerful realization that her greatest healing would occur when she landed in her body and listened. As a disabled mama, facilitator and coach, Kat has a unique approach that empowers folks through building somatic embodied awareness, and honouring the body's capacity to heal through pleasure and play. Bringing people home to pleasure and home to their core power is her life purpose. To learn more visit ka

How can we discover our own sexual needs and desires and then lovingly speak up for them with lovers/partners? We also answer a sex question: I feel like a sex goddess inside but my partner views me as delicate and puts me on a pedestal.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 15.  About our guest: Monica Jayne is a leader of unabashed self-expression, a mentor of true internal freedom, a coach of authentic communication and speaking up, and an educator of erotic liberation. She has been a 6-figure exec in a male-dominated industry, earned over 5000 hours of continuing ed and teaching yoga theory and philosophy for accredited collegiate institutions, and is an expert in communication, authenticity, vulnerability, relationship, sex, and intimacy. She’s a Certified Erotic Blueprint Coach™ with certifications in Queer Competency and Sexological bodywork forthcoming. Monica Jayne catalyzes evolution in all facets of your being, evoking your permission to speak up and be unabashedly you! To learn mo

Dr. Nan Wise returns to answer your sex questions about orgasm difficulties and blocks, cheating and non-ethical non-monogamy, and what sexuality might look like after COVID-19.  About our guest: NAN WISE, Ph.D., is a cognitive neuroscientist, professor, licensed psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, board-certified clinical hypnotherapist, and certified relationship specialist. After almost twenty years in clinical practice, she became driven to understand how the brain creates moods and behaviors in relation to sex and other aspects of human experience. Having returned to academia to pursue a Ph.D. in cognitive neuroscience, she is now a cognitive neuroscience researcher at Rutgers University-Newark. She is the author of the book Why Good Sex Matters and has contributed her expert opinion to outlets such as National Geographic, The Atlantic, Time, Glamour, Women’s Health Magazine, The Washington Post, HuffPost, Romper, and Bustle. To learn more visit askdoctornan.com.  Other links: Get 10% off + free sh

In this episode we interview adult performer and badass entrepreneur Larkin Love AKA everyone's favorite big tittied goth mama all about the ins and outs of her life in the porn industry.  We also answer a sex question: Does excessive masturbation cause any harm? Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 20.  About our guest: Known for her 32J breasts and fierce black hair, Larkin Love has gone from adult star to self-made entrepreneur running her own website and becoming the queen of the clips universe. Her clips and site larkinlove.com feature her as the master of role play. She’s always a chameleon going from kinky mom to librarian to cosplay characters like superheroine Power Girl and League of Legends Ahri, and more. Larkin captivates her members and clip buyers with the kinkiest hardcore, taboo, and fetish scenes on the planet, as well as her specialty blowjobs, incredibly long tongue, and jaw-dropping dirty talk. Larkin was a librarian and earned a Bachelor’s in Psychology. She started in a

What is the “Minax Method” and how does it apply to kink and BDSM in relationships?  We also answer a sex question: My partner is into S/M and my I'm not interested because of my sexual trauma.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 18. About our guest: Professional Domina, Kink Educator and Pleasure Artist, Eve Minax delights in proliferating carnal knowledge. Learning and practicing BDSM from Chicago, to Paris, to Melbourne, and now local to San Francisco Minax has exercised her pedagogical skills at a plethora of conferences. She is the former coordinator for CineKink:Chicago, the West Coast Coordinator for the LA&M Road show, on the board of CARAS and TASHRA. Minax is also certified Urban Tantrika, and a Bondassage Practitioner and trainer. She has self produced over 100 videos and shoots for many great bondage sites like bondageland.com and seriousbondage.com. She currently trains up and coming Dominatrices and those who wish to deepen their work. To learn more visit mistressminax.com Oth

How does erotica get us into our ultimate turn on? And how can we write our own sexy stories?  We also answer a sex question: I want more kissing with my wife. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 18.  About our guest: Rachel Kramer Bussel is a writer, editor, event organizer and writing instructor. She’s edited over 60 anthologies, including Come Again: Sex Toy Erotica, The Big Book of Orgasms, The Big Book of Submission, Tasting Him: Oral Sex Stories, Tasting Her: Oral Sex Stories, Crossdressing, Spanked: Red-Cheeked Erotica, Best Bondage Erotica of the Year, Volume 1 and five volumes of the Best Women’s Erotica of the Year series. Her writing has been published in The New York Times, The Washington Post, O, The Oprah Magazine, SELF, Elle, Rolling Stone, and elsewhere, and she writes regularly about book publishing for Forbes online. Her pansexual erotica has spanned numerous subjects, from French fries to Monica Lewinsky to boxing, as well as exploring lap dances, a dishwashing fetish, a n

How can men become the master of their sexual energy? Why is this helpful? And how can they learn to up their orgasm game both alone and with partners? We also answer a sex question about opening up the relationship as a means of satisfying differing sex drives.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 17.  About our guest: Matthew Ayriss is a Sacred Sexuality Guide, Shamanic-Somatic Healer, Transformational Life Coach, & Conscious Content Creator. He facilitates immersive experiences, men's retreats, Tantra and transformational festivals, men's circles, and group coaching programs across the world. To learn more visit themasculinepillar.com/. And to receive a discount on his program use code Shamelesssex at checkout. Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want clinic

Tune in to learn the latest tips and tricks on seduction and foreplay.  We also answer a sex question: I pleasure my partner but they rarely reciprocate. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 23.  About our guest: Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a sexologist and a sex coach who runs her own sexuality education company, Velvet Lips. She is also a Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective. She has studied human sexuality for more than 19 years and has been featured on a variety of media outlets, as well as spoken to various audiences around the world. She co-wrote her first book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay - available April 14th, 2020 - with Dr. Jessica O’Reilly and is currently writing a chapter and co-editing An Intersectional Approach to Sex Therapy, coming in 2021. To learn more visit http://velvetlipsllc.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while

Award-winning adult film director and creator of Adulttime.com Bree Mills joins us to tell us all about the current state of the porn industry. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 16.  We also answer a sex question about how to have a first-time threesome.  About our guest: Bree Mills is an award-winning adult filmmaker and Chief Creative Officer of Adult Time, a streaming service for adults. Her work leverages art, sexuality, and cinematic narratives to trojan-horse powerful messages into the hearts and minds of her audience. A Boston native, she now lives in Los Angeles with her wife and daughter. Check out Adulttime.com Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Take affordable yoga, pilates and even a 200 hour yoga intensive online at hotsourceyogastudio.com/ Want

What is anxiety and how does it affect the body? How can people work with it? And how does this apply to sex and relationships?  We also answer a sex questions about a golden shower fetish.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 18. About our guest: NAN WISE, Ph.D., is a cognitive neuroscientist, professor, licensed psychotherapist, certified sex therapist, board-certified clinical hypnotherapist, and certified relationship specialist. After almost twenty years in clinical practice, she became driven to understand how the brain creates moods and behaviors in relation to sex and other aspects of human experience. Having returned to academia to pursue a Ph.D. in cognitive neuroscience, she is now a cognitive neuroscience researcher at Rutgers University-Newark. She is the author of the book Why Good Sex Matters and has contributed her expert opinion to outlets such as National Geographic, The Atlantic, Time, Glamour, Women’s Health Magazine, The Washington Post, HuffPost, Romper, and Bustle. To

Sex robots, virtual reality, realistic "love dolls"...what is Sex Tech and what does the future hold for new innovative sex toys? We also answer a sex question: I get air stuck inside of me during sex (AKA queefing). Am I tight enough down there? Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 23.  About our guest: Andrea Barrica is the CEO and founder of O.school, a judgment-free media platform to learn about sexuality and pleasure. As a queer woman of color, she’s been fighting to bring more humanity to the tech industry, and her mission is to create the world’s most trusted sexual wellness brand to help people increase their sexual health, power, and confidence. Previously, Andrea co-founded the leading financial solution for growing startups, inDinero.com, which now employs 150+ employees globally. She also served as a venture partner at 500 Startups, a global venture capital fund, where she worked with hundreds of startup companies.  Andrea was raised in a religious, conservative Filipino family th

What does embodiment mean and how does it enhance intimate connection? Where do my fantasies come from and how can I explore them for hot sex, or even for healing?  Note: This episode was recorded pre COVID-19 About our guest: Finn Deerhart AKA the "Gay Rebel with a Heart-Centered Cause" is a sex and relationship coach living in San Francisco, who has followed a deep inquiry about how sex and spirit intersect in our lives.  He believes that as gay and queer men, we have been divided in sex and spirit since our arrival on the planet and that we are always trying in some way or another to put these severed pieces back together again. Finn is passionate about helping you have relationships that are way deeper, way hotter, and will change your life. To learn more visit http://finndeerhart.com/

What is Tantric sex all about and how does it lead to juicy orgasms and mind-blowing pleasure? And how can people incorporate this into the bedroom? All this and more with Tantrica Caroline Carrington.  We also answer a sex question about how to find the best toy for couple's and g-spot play. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 25. About our guest: Caroline Carrington is a Certified NeoTantra Educator and pleasure & intimacy expert inspiring people to live empowered lives across the US and around the world. She is the Founder of Sarasa Tantra and carries the dream of this lineage to expand people’s experience of pleasure, intimacy and connection through relationships, energy play and dynamic and erotic meditation. Caroline is passionate about walking NeoTantra out of the bedroom and into the world and has taught about the benefits of sexual healing and trauma at Kaiser Permanente. She has had the privilege of studying Somatic Experiencing with a variety of teachers including the creator, Pet

In this episode we chat with our dear friend and fellow podcaster Kyle Thiermann all about love, sex, relationships, and all of the other quarantine-inspired conversations in the time of the COVID-19 virus.  About our guest: Kyle is a professional surfer, podcaster, and filmmaker from California. He creates gonzo-style mini-documentaries about current social issues happening all over the world. These are conversations with fascinating people he meets along the way. To learn more about Kyle and his podcast, visit kyle.surf Want to skip to the conversation with Kyle? Fast forward to minute 11. Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com  

Why do so many women have performance anxiety around orgasm? What type of thoughts do women have that stop them from having orgasms, and what can they can do in and out of the bedroom to dissolve them? We also answer a sex question about finding confidence in dating women. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 24.  About our guest: Kara Loewentheil is a Master Certified Coach with a B.A. from Yale and J.D. from Harvard Law. In the last three years after pivoting from a legal career, she has grown her life coaching business from 0 to 7 figures. She's the host of the iTunes top-rated self-help podcast Unf*ck Your Brain which has been downloaded over 5M times, and she has been featured in outlets like Marie Claire, Mind Body Green, MSN.com, and The Huffington Post. Kara lives in New York City. Learn more at unfckyourbrain.com.  Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at O

In this episode we chat all about how to navigate group sex, sex parties and gang-bangs with Billy from The Manwhore Podcast.  We also answer a sex question: My partner voices a desire to be with other women while drunk but denies it sober. Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 17.  About our guest: Billy Procida is a professional stand-up comedian, podcaster, and accidental gangbang organizer. For over a decade, he's entertained audiences all over the country and can be seen at comedy clubs and Tinder around New York City. His show The Manwhore Podcast: A Sex-Positive Quest for Love was named a Top Sex Podcast by Esquire and Uproxx three years in a row, and his sex & dating advice has been featured in outlets like Cosmo, YourTango, Men's Health, and more. Oh, and his father is finally proud of him. To learn more visit www.ManwhorePod.com/itunes Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the