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What does it mean to live a life led by desire? How does this enhance sex, relationships, and everyday life? What are some of the ways to start living a life led by and full of desire? The hosts of the Desire On Fire podcast share all this and more. About our guests: Aimee Batuski and Ellie Montgomerie are Pleasure and Intimacy Experts, committed to women living turned-on, connected and satisfying lives. They’ve worked side by side with some of the top Sexuality + Intimacy teachers in the world.  These women are the millennial authorities in the global wide movement of the new feminine. Through their retreats, programs and international sisterhood community, they’ve taught thousands of women how to create wild, confident intimacy, hot sex and fulfilling relationships. http://www.desireonfire.com http://www.instagram.com/aimeebatuski https://www.instagram.com/desireonfire/ Other links: Listen to one of our fav podcasts Sluts and Scholars here: slutsandscholars.com Try our favorite dating app Feeld for free +

What are some of the reasons vulva owners experience pain during sex? What can people do at home to have less pain, as well as with a specialist utilizing the current medical technology? What are the best sex positions for someone experiencing pain? And how can couples get out of a rut or dry spell? Dr. Bahlani answers all this and more. About our guest: After completing her residency in OB/GYN at New York Presbyterian/Weill Cornell Medical Center, Dr. Sonia Bahlani pursued a fellowship in the urology department working with pioneers in pelvic pain. Training in both areas gives her a unique, comprehensive foundation and has allowed her to treat women with a variety of urologic and gynecologic pelvic pain syndromes. Through her training, Dr. Bahlani is able to take a holistic view of common women’s health issues. She takes a compassionate, patient-centric approach and listens to her patients to gain a deep understanding of their challenges. This allows her to develop a personalized, comprehensive treatment pla

What does it mean to be a Daddy? How can someone embody or role-play their hot inner daddy energy? Does it always involve dominance? How does dirty talk come into the mix of daddy dynamics? What are some top tips for upping my dirty talk game? And what if I’m shy but want to be more sexually vocal and verbally express my sexual desires? "Daddy" Mischa shares all this and more. About our guest: Mischa Byruck (He/him) is a sexual integrity coach. He guides people to live their sex lives in line with their values. He is the founder of Evolve.Men, where he coaches, teaches and writes on gender and sexuality. He is an ICF-certified coach, with training in abuser counseling, facilitation, antiracism, trauma, gender, consent, men’s work, and sexuality. He teaches workshops on phone sex, dirty talk, daddy kink, and is the consent education partner for Bonobo Network, the Bay Area’s premiere sex-positive community organization. He’s also been an erotic model and appeared in amateur porn. Previously, he founded forLove

What is long arousal and how does it differ from orgasm? Can everyone experience it? If so, how? What are arousal arcs? How can understanding and cultivating these practices lead to liberating, pleasure-filled erotic bliss? The legendary Pamela Madsen answers all this and so much more. About our guest: Pamela Madsen, a Somatic Wellness Coach with a Master's degree in Education, has coached hundreds of women and couples on their own personal journey back into their bodies. Pamela founded Back to the Body, Inc and The Back To The Body MethodTM, now in its twelfth year. A pioneer in fertility and sex advocacy, she also was the Founder and first Executive Director of The American Fertility Association. Pamela is a veteran speaker, educator, and has been a blogger for The Huffington Post, Psychology Today, and more. She is the author of Shameless: How I Ditched The Diet, Got Naked, Found True Pleasure and Still Got Home In Time To Cook Dinner (Rodale, January 2011). Pamela has appeared on Sex with Emily, Oprah, Co

This episode is a fun "Smash-Up" containing clips of six of Shameless Sex podcast's favorite episodes from 2022. We love all of our episodes and guests, and we could only choose a few, so here is a little sneak peak that is near and dear to our hearts (and genitals) :) #295 How to Talk Dirty - With Sexpert Lola Kat - Listen here or here #271 How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life! - With Layla Martin - Listen here or here #286 A Sex-Hacker's Guide to Anal Sex - With Kenneth Play - Listen here or here #267 Spank Me! Choke Me! (But Learn These Tools First!) - With Orpheus Black - Listen here or here #287 Flirting, Dating and Casual Sex - With Rachel Wright, LMFT - Listen here or here #293 Fetishes, Porn and Sex Toys - With Master Fetish Trainers Jet Setting Jasmine and King Noire - Listen here or here Other links: Listen to the Anthony Bourdain of sex podcast, the Private Parts Unknown podcast here Try our favorite dating app Feeld for free + get a free month of their Majestic Membership here

What makes a deeply connected relationship work? Can couple's continue to have the best sex of their lives in long term relationships, and if so, what are some of the tools or creating and maintaining a fulfilling sex life? How does commitment including marriage affect things? What are some of the ways people can grow and nourish partnerships whether or not they "put a ring on it"? About our guests: Jef combines transformational coaching with emotional mastery, psychological integration, shadow work, and energetic attunement.  He is a meme lord and a master level practitioner and teacher of EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) and incorporates shadow integration and cognitive science into the methodology that he now trains practitioners in.  He guides people in a process of intentional patterns of thought that invite internal unification, profound personal empowerment, and deep energetic/emotional hygiene. His vision is one of collective healing, harmonization and integration that is self replicating, just like

How does pressure show up in relationships, and why does it hinder pleasure, connection and arousal? How does pressure operate differently in new encounters vs long term relationships? What are some helpful tips to start turning the pressure valve down - both within the self and when engaging in intimacy with others? Repeat guest Dr. Aly answers all this and more. About our guest: Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. Dr. Aly is champion for others overcoming shame and deepening pleasure and helps her clients experience pleasurable sexual interactions and nourishing romantic relationships. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their de

How can I have amazing orgasmic anal sex? How does surrender and awareness come into the mix? How can I enhance my orgasmic potential as a receiver, and how can I up my anal sex game as a giver? Repeat guests Alicia and Erwan Davon share all this and so much more. About our guests: Erwan and Alicia Davon have become the go- to experts for those seeking a higher level of relationship support. Erwan is the founder, senior teacher and president of San Francisco based The Davon Method. Together with Alicia, who has a Masters in Psychology and training as a therapist, they specialize in supporting singles in getting into passionate and successful relationships, and helping couples take their relationships to new heights of romance and intimacy. Based in the SF Bay Area, Erwan and Alicia provide a high end boutique service that gives their clients an effective way to enhance their relationships. They offer all of their coaching and classes online and support students all over the world.  To work with the Davon's te

What is the difference between internal and external orgasms and why are internal orgasms generally more difficult to achieve for many vulva-owners? How does foreplay and erogenous zones fit into all of this? And how do you personally define foreplay? What are some of the top sex-hacking tips for bigger, better, more frequent internal and external orgasms? About our guest: Kenneth Play is an international expert on female pleasure who was named the World’s Greatest Sex Hacker by GQ & Men’s Health. Kenneth has been featured by more than 100 media outlets including The New York Times, Nightline, Cosmo, Playboy, Vice, and Huffington Post. Kenneth is also the author of one of our favorite books, “Beyond Satisfied: A Sex Hacker’s Guide to Endless Orgasms, Mind-Blowing Connection, and Lasting Confidence”. To learn more visit kennethplay.com  Join our free online community on Discord! We have a fun improv game coming up on Thursday, Dec 29th at 6pm PST. Sign up here: https://discord.gg/v7zTPnT5mb?event=1051832459861

Why is expressing or playing with fantasies beneficial for relationships? What are some ways we can share fantasies with partners? What can we do if our partners are not comfortable with what we share? And what if we actually want to turn the fantasy into role-play? What are some ways we can actually start to explore our fantasies? About our guest: Naomi Slater is an experienced intimacy & relationship coach, yoga teacher and bio-energy therapist. She is the creator of the 3-month online course “Awaken Your Desire” that helps women reclaim their wild and powerful divine feminine through yoni egg practices, emotional alchemy, meditation and psychoanalytic tools. Naomi is the host on the “Divine Couples” podcast, where she explores conscious sexuality through monologues and guest interviews. She holds an MA in Conflict Management & Resolution and a BA in Psychology and studied esoteric practices, treatments and philosophies with various gurus worldwide. Naomi’s passion is helping others heal their relationships

What is BDSM, and how does “sensual kink” fit into the mix? Why is communication so important in kink, and how can people improve their erotic communication skills? How can people begin to dip their toes into the world of sensual BDSM? Also, what is the orgasm gap, how does it show up in BDSM, and what are “lifestyle events” all about? About our guest: Sir Marvelous, is a well-known and highly respected Pleasure Coach and Professional Sensual BDSM Dominant. Based out of the NYC area, he has 10 years of practice and owns and operates a Dungeon in New Jersey. Specializing in introducing and de-stigmatizing BDSM, his mission is to help close the orgasm gap by teaching people how to have and give stronger and more frequent orgasms, while tapping into the sensual side of BDSM. Sensual BDSM can completely transform how people experience intimacy by increasing connection, arousal and sensitivity. Sir Marvelous has performed at numerous sex positive events, has numerous reviews from private clients all over the count

What is flirting? Is it just something single people do or can we flirt with our partners as well? What if someone feels like they are “bad” at flirting? How can they learn to become more confident and up their flirting game? What are some tips for flirting whether single or partnered? And how does non-sexual touch play into all of this? About our guest: Euphemia is a full spectrum pleasure coach and bestselling author of Slow Pleasure.  Their work aims to support people to flourish and feel pleasure. Even despite our collective crisis of pace and disconnection. They’ve been featured in Elle, Cosmopolitan, Vice, Harper’s Bazaar, and multiple national radios and newspapers. ‘Slow Pleasure’ is both the name of Euphemia’s best-selling book and their theory of change. By learning to access the full spectrum of pleasure, drip by drip and microdose by microdose, people can feel their own aliveness and reestablish a nourishing connection to self, others, and the land. Euphemia understands pleasure and somatics to be

Today, we’re sharing a preview of a new podcast we’re enjoying and think you will, too. On Come As You Are, educator and bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science. You’ll get a modern guide to sexual wellbeing, backed by groundbreaking research about desire, anatomy, orgasm and much more. In conversation with her producer, Emily debunks cultural myths and flips the script on everything you thought you knew about sex and sexuality. In this preview, Emily answers a listener question about losing the motivation to have sex and introduces us to a concept known as the "dual control model,” which offers a simple but radical shift in the way we think about horniness. Click here listen to Come As You Are, or visit https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/caya?sid=shameless

What is penis enhancement all about? Is it about size or performance, and why would someone want to enhance their penis? Are there any dangers to penis enhancement? What are the statistics for positive results? And what are some of the key points penis-owners should know about testosterone and how it affects the body? Dr. Brandeis shares all this as well as his new research on the P-Long Study and P-Long protocol. About our guest: Dr. Judson Brandeis is a graduate of Brown University and Vanderbilt University School of Medicine, with Urologic Surgery residency at UCLA and a post-doc fellowship at Harvard, today he specializes in the emerging field of sexual health and medicine. Dr. Brandeis helps men everywhere feel great, look good, and have better physical intimacy. Over the course of his 25-year career as a board-certified urologist, he has performed thousands of surgeries and pioneered surgical robotics. In 2019, Dr. Brandeis decided to follow his true passion and opened BrandeisMD, a national leader in t

What is erotic hypnosis? How does it help people as sexual beings, as well as in other aspects of their lives? Can it really inspire them to overcome issues and habits so they may create their best lives? And how is erotic hypnosis related to BDSM and working with a Dominatrix? Mistress Carol shares all this and more (and even does a brief demo on air!). About our guest: Mistress Carol is a Dominatrix, Erotic Hypnotist, and Clinical Hypnotherapist at EroticHypnosisForMen.com. She is an expert in controlling your mind and taking you deep into the sensual experience of hypnotic trance and fantasy. Her sessions have been celebrated as some of the best in the industry, with her provocative and controlling voice that welcomes one to surrender into hypnotic submission. With an intellectual interest in psychology and the mysteries of the subconscious mind, Mistress Carol has been practicing hypnosis and creating erotic trance sessions for over ten years. As a sensualist, she takes pleasure in creating a dream-like e

What does swinging entail, and how does someone know this lifestyle is for them? Is swinging for people of all ages (well, 18 and up)? How can people both dip their toes into and navigate the world of swinging? How can swinging go awry, and what are some options for working through these hurdles? And what is the difference between swinging and sex parties? About our guest: Kiley is a millennial non monogamous swinger activist and sex worker from Cleveland, Ohio. Over the course of the past 18 months Kiley has taken social media by storm helping break stigmas associated with the non monogamous lifestyle. She uses her platform for good and has started working with organizations like The Woodhull Foundation, The Swinger Society and is part of the PR committee with The National Coalition For Sexual Freedom. Kiley wants to continue fighting for sexual freedoms via her platform and on a local level. She hopes her efforts will help de-stigmatize the non monogamous community. To learn more visit sexyswingerchic.net T

What is narcissism and borderline personality, and how can they cause to others? How can someone recognize if they are dating someone with narcissistic tendencies? Why are certain people drawn to them, and why do so many find it har to leave what feels like a toxic relationship? What are some coping skills or strategies that can help a person finally leave, as well as tools for the healing process after experiencing so much emotional abuse? Repeat guest Kate Loree shares all of this and more.  About our guest: Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities, author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships, and cohost of the podcast Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. Kate Loree has been featured in Buzzfeed videos, Playboy Radio, as well as many podcasts. To learn more visit KateLoree.com. Follow us on Tik Tok @shamelesssexpodcast for entertaining and informative clips fr

What is Cuckolding and why are people into it? How does Cuckolding differ from Hot-Wifing? How can people embrace their inner Cuck? And how does male-chastity fit into the mix? Dr. David Ley shares all this and more. About our guest: David Ley is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist and author, based in Albuquerque, New Mexico. He's the author of several books and research articles on sexuality, including his first book, Insatiable Wives: Women who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, which was the first book to examine the cuckolding and hotwife phenomenon. With Dr. Justin Lehmiller and Dan Savage, he published the first psychological study of the cuckold fantasy. Dr. Ley is a frequent guest in media around the world, with appearances in the New York Times, CNN and Time Magazine, as well as Hustler and Playboy magazines. To learn more visit davidleyphd.com Follow us on Tik Tok @shamelesssexpodcast for entertaining and informative clips from episodes such as this one. Come join our free private Shameless Sex on

Repeat guest and Urologist Dr. Justin Dubin joins us once again to teach us all about the wonderful world of vasectomies. How do vasectomies actually work, and what does the procedure and healing process look like? Who should consider a vasectomy? What are the success rates? Are they bad for the body? What if someone wants to get their vasectomy reversed? What does this procedure and healing process look like, and what are the success rates? Oh, and is botox for the balls really a thing? Tune in for this fun episode to discover why Dr. Dubin is a huge fan of vasectomies (and we are too). About our guest: Dr. Justin Dubin grew up in Wayne NJ and attended Johns Hopkins University for undergraduate school. He completed medical school at Rutgers Robert Wood Johnson, his urology residency training at the University of Miami, and more recently his fellowship in Male Infertility and Sexual Medicine at Northwestern University. Dr. Dubin is a Men’s Health specialist at Memorial Healthcare System in Hollywood, Florida.

Repeat guest and expert Forrest Andrews joins us for a pre-Movember episode to talk all about prostate health, pleasure, how penis-owners can have a Super O AKA mind-blowing full-bodied multi-orgasmic experiences, prostate toys, the purpose and art of enemas, and so much more. About our guest: Forrest Andrews is the Product and Business Development manager of Aneros. Forrest's relationship with Aneros began in 2002 and he has played an important role in the evolution of the company and their products ever since becoming their sole product tester and a consultant for the development of new products. Between 2003 to 2012 he mentored many hundreds of men helping them transition to new levels of sensual awareness through prostate massage. To check out all of Aneros’ incredible line of products go to aneros.com Other links: Hey Iceland! We love you, and we LOVE this pleasure shop: https://blush.is/ And for all you US folks, get 15% off all of your sex toys (including the ones shared in this episode) with code SHA