Reclaiming Male Role Models

[Listen on iTunes] This is the final episode of Reclaiming Male Role Models! I had the extraordinary privilege of being interviewed by David Hrostoski (featured in episode 21). In this episode we talk about: My journey visioning and creating Reclaiming Male Role Models Why I spent 3 years, countless hours, and lots of energy and money creating this project. How role models can be helpful in learning to do things differently, but how they can also box us in if we're not careful. Resources from this episode: robertschwenkler.com brotherhoodcommunity.com

[Listen on iTunes] Hailed as “part football coach, part loving dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant” ROBERT KANDELL has spent the last sixteen years helping people re energize their lives and build better relationships through more honest and authentic connection. After building a successful consulting firm in San Francisco, he then took his business acumen and co-founded OneTaste in 2004 with Nicole Daedone. Taking on the challenging task of bringing conscious sexuality to the mainstream market, Robert built the company from scratch to a high seven-figure international corporation. He left OneTaste in 2014 to start his own Consulting firm helping small businesses become marketable and profitable. Robert is also an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer. He brings his enthusiasm and acumen to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love, on subjects around relationships, intimacy, communication and gender dynamics. In this episode we talk about: Rob’s story of going from an insecure, nerdy, fat Jewish kid t

[Listen on iTunes] ALEX VILLEGAS worked in Corporate America for around 10 years, for a couple of different fortune 500 companies. Because of his time in Corporate America, he knows from experience how demanding and stressful it can be. After that, Alex co-owned a Transformational Fitness company located in Coconut Grove, FL that specialized in life coaching, nutrition, and personal training. Alex is the Founder and President of Organic Work Environments. Organic Work Environments is about teaching professionals how to optimize their minds and busy work lives through Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Techniques. Our mission is to change the way we perceive and feel about work. In changing our attitudes about our present moments, we create more awareness and clarity in our day, which opens us up to being happy, connected, productive, and fueled by our purpose in life. In this episode we talk about: How Alex has transformed (or blown up, depending on how you look at it) his life multiple times over - all

[Listen on iTunes] TYLER TERVOOREN is the founder of Riskology, a blog where he writes for introverts about the science and strategies for becoming a great leader. Tyler loves finding new ideas for improving and testing them on himself, including running a marathon on every continent, running three businesses, and organizing three successful Guinness World Record attempts. Tyler figures that if the time is going to pass anyway, he might as well spend it doing fun things with interesting people. In this episode we talk about: Recreating his relationship with his dad. How self confidence allows us to love more fully in our intimate relationships. How Tyler gains self confidence by learning to do things himself before calling on an expert. Quotes from this episode: When you’re confident in yourself - in your life - and you can lead a happy life on your own, it allows you to really give all of yourself to someone else. The meaning or purpose of being a dad is figuring out how to be a dad. Resources fr

[Listen on iTunes] ROB SCOTT is a master level coach who helps people shift their identities and make dramatic breakthroughs on all platforms of their life. Over the past two decades he has helped people who were struggling and feeling unfulfilled to succeed in the various areas they were looking to improve. The Fundamental Shift, pioneered by Rob, teaches people how rewire their limiting beliefs, and ultimately leaves them completely transformed and understanding the distinctions of thought vs experience. Rob has pinpointed humanity’s core issue and identified and named this problem. It’s the problem of limiting of our current identity. The thoughts you create yield the results of what you think you deserve. Rob has made it his mission to shift this mindset and create habits and behaviors that yield positive outcomes. The result of this shift are people who are living to their full potential and achieving a level of success they thought was impossible to reach. Now, after a decade of helping believe reach

[Listen on iTunes] KEN BLACKMAN is a sought-after lecturer and coach, teaching workshops worldwide and working one-on-one with select clients from SF, LA and NY to London, Paris, Sydney and Bali. His approach is brash, unorthodox and effective. He was one of the principal architects of a curriculum that is now shifting the world conversation around sex and human relating through OneTaste. His main focus these days is on custom-tailoring relationships to be resilient, passionate, intimate, connection-rich and deeply fulfilling. In this episode we talk about: Ken’s journey - from feeling unlikable and unattractive to now teaching men and women all over the world how to have resilient and deeply gratifying relationships. Why trying to be attractive to women is the thing that’s keeping you from being attractive to women. Quotes from this episode: The one thing that I want all guys to get is that the you that’s actually in there is 10x more attractive than the you that you’re trying to pretend to be. The

[Listen on iTunes] MIKE ZELLER discovered his passion for leadership in his early twenties. By the time He was 22, he had listened to well over 100 visionary talks from the top leadership experts in our culture. Before graduating college, He was a devoted sales professional and avid student of sales. After graduation, he enrolled himself under the mentorship, education, and influences of Tony Robbins, Peter Diamandis, and Tim Ferris. Mike has had the opportunity to join some of the highest masterminds, and spent 1000s of hours per year studying various facets of business while still growing his current ventures and starting new ones. In this episode we talk about: The impact that seeking out mentors has had on Mike’s life and career (Hint: It starts with an “H” and ends with a “uge”) How to cultivate mentor relationships where you actually add value to your mentor’s life. The belief that has allowed Mike’s level of success to grow radically. Quotes from this episode: You miss every shot you don’t t

[Listen on iTunes] GREGORY KELLETT is a leader in the field of human potential. His obsession for merging the worlds of neuroscience, community and optimal performance has led him to help individuals and organizations build resilience. He describes himself as a recovering neuroscientist, & prior to coaching, conducted research in brain responsiveness, stress & the nervous system for over 10 years at both SFSU and UCSF. He is known for his unique ability to translate scientific research into simple, practical tools for real world success and satisfaction. Gregory lives with his extended family just north of San Francisco. In this episode we talk about: Letting go of the rational mind and trusting intuition. Breaking down the paradigm of marriage. Trusting women and the feminine - and how it’s made his life be better than he could have ever imagined. Quotes from this episode: I’m experimenting with really trusting women, and what I find it that it just keeps getting better than I could have ever have

[Listen on iTunes] KYLE INGHAM is the founder and editor of The Distilled Man, a website that helps everyday guys become well-rounded gentlemen. In this episode we talk about: How Kyle’s interest in learning to grill better turned into full time business teaching man skills like making a martini, tying a bow tie, and grilling. How Kyle actually creates and builds relationships by talking about taboo topics and pushing peoples' comfort zones. How learning new skills (such as mixing a martini!) can increase a man's confidence. Quotes from this episode: I have a few role models that are comedians. Not because they’re funny, but because of their honesty. My father, he had high expectations of me being good at sports and I wasn’t that good at sports… I’ve always found that I’m way more happy when I have a sense of purpose. I’m the kind of person who needs to embody what I’m doing. Resources from this episode: The Distilled Man website: www.thedistilledman.com Free ebook, “48-Hour Gentleman: Your

[Listen on iTunes] GREGG DEMAMMOS is a very happy husband and father of two great boys. In 2006 Gregg left a successful career in the music industry managing artists to become a life coach. Ten years later he has coached hundreds of people to transform their lives and relationships, have more business success, and create new, empowering relationship to themselves. Today Gregg is more of who he always wanted to be than he ever has been. From the moment he lost his father at age 9 Gregg became committed to helping his mom get through things as best he could. In his business he now concentrates on coaching women leaders who are ready to bring their dreams back into focus and become who they have always wanted to be - A niche that has been a lifetime in the making. In this episode we talk about: How Gregg respects his childrens’ temper tantrums and anger, and transforms them into life lessons and deep love. Gregg’s journey of learning to use his emotions in ways that worked FOR him. How, despite growing

[Listen on iTunes] CHRISTOPHER SUNYATA Sexual energy is the source of all life in this world. Vast physical pleasure, deep love, and even union with divine source can be experienced through sex. Christopher Sunyata teaches people how to embrace their sexual power and artfully conduct it through their body and intimate relationships, integrating this power into their whole life. Drawing upon decades of practice and study under masters of sexual yoga, Taoist exercises, and Buddhist meditation, he teaches ancient body-centered practices without dogma or esoteric language, leading others to discover the secret wisdom already present within their own body. By learning to trust this wisdom within their body, people can reclaim passion and life energy that is their birthright, and create intimate relationships that deepen in love and chemistry over the years. Prior to teaching he was a successful international project manager responsible for over a billion dollars in revenue, a medical device engineer with seven pa

[Listen on iTunes] MORRIS KUNZ has been a leader in the real estate finance industry for over 20 years. He has the ability to bring people together and negotiate transactions at a high level due to his understanding and skillset around the dynamics of relationship. He has successfully negotiated 100’s of millions of dollars’ worth of real estate transactions. Morris has also worked with many couples and individuals to unlock their authentic communication, express their truth without fear of judgement, and ultimately move to higher levels of relationship. In this episode we talk about: Morris’ journey in showing up as the role model he wished he’d been for his children. How to navigate the process of conscious uncoupling within marriage. How to maintain passion and excitement in your relationship through the concepts of polarity. The distinction between tolerating and celebrating your relationships. Quotes from this episode: I was absent for my boys more than I would have liked to have been, and I

[Listen on iTunes] TED RYCE is a health & fitness expert, professional speaker and host of the Legendary Life podcast. He's been a fitness professional for over 17 years in the Miami Beach area. He's worked with celebrities like Richard Branson, Robert Downey Jr as well as CEOs of multimillion dollar companies. He believes that health and fitness form the foundation of success in our life. After overcoming several tragedies, he started combining health with personal development to provide an all-encompassing approach to success and living a life of purpose. In this episode we talk about: The single art form that Ted practiced to excel in every area of life, including his relationships with women and his friendships. The importance of developing a healthy relationship with our masculine energy. His rocky and painful journey from family tragedy to healing and reconnecting with his father. Why crying is one of the most manly things men can do. Quotes from this episode: There is a shadow to masculine

[Listen on iTunes] FREDDY ZENTAL WEAVER co-lead creative self-discovery seminars at the Institute for Creative Living in Los Angeles, San Diego, San Francisco and Hawaii. He employs the approach of “Creative Self-Discovery” as developed by psychiatrist and author, Fred Weaver, III, M.D. During his tenure in software sales with companies including Eality, Ceridian Employer Services, Paychex and WebPerfect Solutions, Inc. he consistently achieved outstanding sales and income objectives. Freddy Zental’s career spans from serving as a teacher and district wide human relationship counselor in the Los Angeles Unified School District in his early career to being a performing artist with a one-man show called “Sexual Enlightenment” currently touring the United States. He is an accomplished performing artist, percussionist, stand-up comedian and story teller using humor, music and movement in his presentations and trainings. He holds a Bachelor’s Degree in political science and is a certified Thai Body Worker. FRED

[Listen on iTunes] MARK GROVES has a specialized interest in the area of Human Connection. He’s an author, speaker and sales consultant. He’s in love with science, psychology, and uncovering the mysteries of what makes great relationships work. Speaking of that, he’s certain there are no “secrets” when it comes to great relationships. Rather, he believes that all relationships are by design and we are all the architects of what we want. Mark has a Certificate in Applied Positive Psychology and has written for The Purple Fig, Plenty of Fish, Goodmen Project and Trifecta Magazine. When he’s not working with clients you’ll find him traveling the globe, playing in the mountains and ocean, or pretty much anything that gets his heart beating in the paradise that is Vancouver, BC. In this episode we talk about: How the 6 figure job and picture perfect engagement actually kept him AND his fiancee from true happiness. What makes some relationships last? And what makes others not? How to be a man who shows up

[Listen on iTunes] ROBERT B. SMYTH believes that stories are what make life, the world, and ourselves unfold. For 25+ years, he ran Yellow Moon Press, an independent publishing company, whose focus was the oral tradition as it relates to storytelling, poetry and music. His love of story drew him to the mythopoetic men’s work of Robert Bly, Michael Meade, James Hillman, John Stokes, and others as an organizer of numerous events where men explored and nurtured themselves with folktales, poems, and personal reflection. In his interview, he shares stories and poems that have revealed the world to him. In this episode we talk about: Robert’s journey into the mytho-poetic men’s work world of the 70’s and 80’s. The power of poetry to transform our relationships - to ourselves AND to others. What it means to be a man in the world without being that stereotypical dominant male. The importance of family lineage, and finding the grave of his great, great, great grandfather. Quotes from this episode: “The d

[Listen on iTunes] MAX NACHAMKIN is a relationship coach for entrepreneurs, where he merges spiritual and practical real-world techniques to help business owners get out of tricky relationship situations and increase the amount of love, connection, and service they have in the world. In this episode we talk about: Max’s journey of learning to love his parents and accepting that they did the very best they could while raising him. How joy and play can help us get more of the connection, intimacy, and sex that we really want in our relationships. The secret to being really great with women: Crying. Quotes from this episode: “There are no experts, only people who’ve been winging it longer than you have”  “When we let go of these emotions they can’t control us anymore.” “When we’re light and we’re fun and we’re playful people are really attracted to that. Crying is a huge piece of that. For the guy who feels like his relationships suck, that would be a bigger game changer than any tactic or techni

[Listen on iTunes] EVA CLAY, LCSW is a true wild woman. An acclaimed psychotherapist, tantrika, sex geek, and muse, her mission is to illuminate the ménage-a-trois of body, mind, and spirit in all our relating. She has helped thousands of people to achieve hot, healthy, holistic love. As a professor of neuroscience, Eva bodaciously reminds us that the brain is our biggest sex organ, and with great elegance she marries the profound with the playful.  Always called to uplift sexual wellness, she's worked for 20-years a sex educator and healer. She offers self-love and erotic intelligence programs for both women and men.  On her off time you might find her crashing open mic events in Venice Beach. In this episode we talk about: How to know if you’re in your body (or if you’re not!). How our breath is the GPS of our life, and why it’s so important to be in touch with it. How to get more embodied using breath, and why it’s essential to creating intimacy in relationships. Quotes from this episode: "Lo

[Listen on iTunes] MARIANE KAROU is the founder of Dance Alive, Inc., an integrated, comprehensive system of movement. Her professional life began at age 18 teaching preschool, where within a month she had become the director of the entire drama/dance department. Today she is a formative leader, master teacher,innovator and pioneer in the field of movement, somatic education and life training. She is recognized as an expert in stimulating creativity, clarity, and balance throughout one's whole life. In this episode we talk about: Seeing her brother develop schizophrenia and be healed by dance therapy, only to have it taken away and see his illness return. The necessity of embodiment practices for all men AND women. What every woman needs to know in order to have loving, communicative, and empowered relationships with men. The exact things that make men so relatable and lovable. Choosing between worldwide fame and success or her family, and how her choice ended up allowing her to have greater impac