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In this quick Swank Life episode by guest host Brendan Rose, he explains the three major ways you can get physical with a women faster. Have you been on five, six, seven dates without getting physical? Then this podcast episode is for you. Brendan breaks down how you can break the barrier and grab the attention of a woman.    Key Takeaways: 2:30 – Adding more layers to yourself will often add more anxiety. So, hack away the inessential instead.  3:30 – Life is simple, we just make it complicated.  5:10 – Number one, develop a plan of where to go and when. Brendan explains what this means.  7:05 – Number two, create liminal space. What is liminal space?  10:40 – Number three, affection first. Brendan explains how to do this in a swanky way.  13:40 – A quick recap of what we learned today.    Mentioned In This Episode: http://swanklife.com/

On this episode of The Swank Life, Jake talks to Dr. Jack Schafer about his book The Like Switch, his time as a behavioral analyst, and how to win people over.    Key Takeaways: [00:01:45] background [00:02:19] profiler vs behavioral analyst [00:04:13] The Golden Rule of Friendship [00:09:57] friendship formula [00:13:00] Eyebrow flash [00:18:46] Digital World [00:22:28] keep it fresh [00:22:17] Sustaining, keep it fresh   Mentioned in This Episode: http://www.amazon.com/Like-Switch-Influencing-Attracting-Winning/dp/1476754489/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8

Brendan Rose talks about his three month romp in Costa Rica, that turned into a three year journey filled with travel and life lessons. He also teaches the simplicity of connecting with women.   Key Takeaways:  00:30 Brendan Rose talks about the shift that changed everything. 06:51 Brendan Rose explains how to get a phone number in a cool way. 13:05 How do you actually approach a woman?  16:29 My ten tenants. 24:49 An incredibly effective insight on making connections with Facebook.    Mentioned in this episode: The Art of Happiness by The Dali Lama, http://www.amazon.com/The-Art-Of-Happiness-Handbook/dp/0743506308 https://www.couchsurfing.com/ The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida http://www.amazon.com/The-Way-Superior-Man-Challenges/dp/159179257 Carrot App, http://www.meetcarrot.com/

Troy Pummill joins Jake to discuss his online dating website, Magical Matches, and the steps his site guides you through to find your soul mate.   Key Takeaways: 01:06 Troy discusses online dating and his different approach 2:27 Troy's shares his memories of his first date with his wife  3:45 How Magical Matches works 5:16 Troy discusses what makes a good match 7:08 Jake and Troy discuss online dating competitors 8:24 Troy explains the mechanics of Magical Matches 11:24 Troy talks about how profiles need to be deeper, heart & soul 12:20 The purpose of a date 15:46 Troy discusses what happens if things go wrong in the relationship 19:55 Jake and Troy talk about twins     Mentioned in this Episode: The Mirror Effect: More Than Soul Mates; 6 Steps to Finding Your Magical Match Using Online Dating, http://www.amazon.com/Troy-Pummill/e/B00DX7JOZY http://magicalmatches.com/

Psychotherapist and columnist Ken Page talks with Jake Swank about dating patterns people make and better ways for making a lasting loving relationship.   Key Takeaways  01:49 – Making fatal mistakes when thinking dating is a numbers game. 06:29 – Building a good and real profile that gets people interested. 10:02 – Attraction of deprivation: how everybody has a pattern in finding people that can almost love and accept us. 12:21 – Attraction of inspiration: meeting people that inspire you and make you feel connected. 13:35 – Wave of distancing: feeling that you no longer connect with someone that could be the love of your life. 14:59 – Dating buddy: having one can really help you grow in finding that person you want to be and making it with for the rest of your life.   Mentioned in this episode Deeper Dating: How to Drop the Games of Seduction and Discover the Power of Intimacy by Ken Page http://www.deeperdating.com/index.htmll

Lori Cheek founder of Cheek'd. Talks with Jake Swank about her dating app which connects the online and real world of dating together.   Key Takeaways 01:35 – The ideal of Cheek'd came from a date and grew from there. 03:19 – Cheek'd uses beacon technology to connect people to each other and notifies them if they cross each other enough times. 04:35 – If you get a notification about someone near you, you can look up their dating profile to know more about them. 05:50 – Users of Cheek'd have to agree to communicate with each other in order to chat. 06:49 – People have to be within 30 foot radius to connect with others. 07:46 – The Cheek'd website can show you where connections are happening and also where on the map you might have miss someone. 13:30 – for app go to Cheek'dor the iTunes store and for more info go to Cheek'd Twitter or Loricheeknyc   Mentioned in this episode Look Up You Might Miss Something TEDx talk by Lori Cheek Cheek'd iTunes store Cheek'd Twitter   Loricheeknyc

Peter Andrew Sacco talks with Jake Swank about his book Why Women Want What They Can't Have & Men Want What They Had After It's Gone! And the key things about relationships that people should know.   Key Takeaways  02:28 – Women want people who will listen to what they're saying and not just hear what they're saying. And whatever you are putting out, is going to attracting the same type of person you might not want. 04:00 – Men and Women, more so with women, both have pressure from society to be in a relationship, cause that's the only way to be attractive, acceptable, and happy in life, and they go on thinking like this in every relationship they have. 05:58 – Funny thing with people is, if you explain to them that your focus is on a career then they don't think there's anything wrong with you not being in a relationship. 08:05 – You've got to be happy with yourself and love yourself to succeed in a relationship. 10:06 – Women know what they feel a lot faster than men, and if men wait too long to show th

Today's episode has Jake Swank talking with April Davis, founder of Cupid's Cronies about good  social networking sites and what Cupid's Cronies does for their clientele in matchmaking and in their dating coaches.   Key Takeaways  01:35 –  Quality women tend to be attacted to confidence men, who knows: who he is, where he's going and what he has to offer. 02:60 –  It's best if you put your best foot forward along with displaying yourself in an open and friendly way, especially with a smile to women. 03:57 –  Observing the situation is the best way to break the ice with women.  05:05 –  Quality women are offten involved in nonprofit or volunteering organizations, which are also great ways to meet quality people. 06:13 –  meetup.com is a great site for social networking because in whatever hobbies you may like, they will have groups for those hobbies and meet-up events.   08:30 – Facebook is pretty popular for dating which probaly is because people feel that it is realer and safer than going on a actual matchma

Jill Gonzalez joins the show today. To talk about WalletHub and where singles might find the best cities to live with Jake Swank.   Key Takeaways  01:12 – WalletHub is finance social network site for consumers to see reviews on personal, and financial companies. Along with data studies to help consumers be aware of their spending. 03:01 – A popular study this year was Most & Least Recession-Recovered Cities. Arizona also was a good place for retirement. 07:23 – WalletHub has not made a best place for singles yet, but there are studies that can point us in the right area. 09:42 –  The problem with statistics is that the experience can be completely different in other places, but they are a good way to start the journey. 11:42 –  Dating can become an expensive hobby, so it might be good to see where the best highest medium starting salary is. 12:40 – Cost of living has definitely rise up in places like DC where equity traders are making money on real estate. 16:37 –  Good cities for entrepreneurs to start a

Today’s Swank Life show deals with the question so many men ask: How can I be the ultimate man? And it gives the answers that so many women are hoping listeners will take note of. Jake Swank talks to the author of The Ultimate Man’s Survival Guide, Frank Miniter. Frank gives a step-by-step summary of some of the main categories featured in his book, as well as throwing in a few tips on how to achieve the goal of being the Ultimate Man.    Key Takeaways 01.26 – The Ultimate Man has to be a balance of all of the different archetypes. 03.00 – Being the Provider isn’t just about getting a paycheck; it’s about understanding things like where your own food comes from. 04.09 – There’s also a very physical side to being the Ultimate Man – how can you deal with a crisis if you don’t know how far you can push yourself? 05.47 – The old-school idea of a gentleman is often under attack by certain feminist values, which just seems at odds. 08.18 – Women are looking for signs that you’ve put real intentions and real emotion

  Sara Shikhman wanted to go out with a guy and have a near-case guarantee she was going to have fun with him. As a hard working woman, it can be hard to find a good man that knows how to show a woman a good time and not worry about the sexual undertones. She saw that this service was deeply lacking in the market and created RentAGent.me, a website where you can rent a man for a work event, an indoor cooking class, and more. She explains on the Swank Life show what are some of the requirements you need to have in order to meet her company's high demands.    Key Takeaways: 2:20 – Sara talks about her Rent A Gent company 3:10 – In order to qualify for Rent A Gent, the man would have to be really good looking, at least have a bachelor degree in education, and have at least one talent.  6:15 – Out of the 1,500 or more men that have applied, Sara's company has only accepted 30.  9:45 – Ladies sometimes ask the men to do things and to pretend to be people they're not comfortable with.    11:00 – Rent A Gent has sev

In today’s episode of Swank Life, Jake Swank and guest Marni Kinrys provide the ultimate guide for men wanting more success in finding women. Marni is the founder of The Wing Girl Method, a process designed to give tips and real-life insights into what women think and how this can be used to reinvent the modern man’s dating techniques.     Takeaways   04.55 – Our reactions to relationships are always changing – nowadays online dating is normal and often, successful, whereas it used to be a sign of desperation. 05.39 – Men: If you want something, you have to be very clear and direct with your intentions.  09.00 – Ask for what you really want. If you ask if she wants coffee, she’ll think you only mean coffee.  12.40 – It’s sexy for a man to look like he has a life going on, rather than appearing over-eager. 16.55 – Age goes some way to dictating communication methods, but these are by no means set in stone. 22.00 – There are three reasons a woman might tell you she has a boyfriend, and you have to respect and u

Jake Swank talks to Isabel Behncke a primatologist at the Oxford University. She's been on TED talks and today on the show she shares some very important scientific tips as to what a women loves in a man and how you can improve your lifestyle to attract women.    Key Takeaways:  4:10 – Despite what most people think, good guys do not finish last. Women want the good guy in a long term relationship.  7:45 – Females are a limited resources to males, because they have a reproductive cycle of about 9 months. 10:00 – In the short term, women are most likely to trust a man if they show vulnerable traits.  12:00 – What attracts women? Use your brain, humor, generosity, and have a good social network.      Mentioned In This Episode:  http://swanklife.com/   http://senrg.psy.ox.ac.uk/people/i_behncke.html

Dr. Catherine Salmon is Associate professor of psychology at the University of Redlands and author of, "Warrior Lovers: Erotic fiction, evolution, and female sexuality." She joins the show to discuss how romance novels represent and portray female sexual preferences.   Dr. Salmon then explains the difference between how men and women express their sexuality and how guys can draw the line between treating a girl like a princess and being a doormat.    Dr. Salmon then finishes with her tips on how guys can develop social currency and status.  Catherine Salmon is an associate professor of psychology at the University of Redlands. Her research interests cover everything from birth order and family dynamics to eating disorders, reproductive suppression, and sexuality. She holds a PhD in psychology and a BSc in biology from McMaster University. Salmon has been featured on Oxygen and the Science Channel, and co-authored (with Don Symons) Warrior Lovers: erotic fiction, evolution, and female sexuality. In addition, s

Jake and Steve discuss online dating, and the challanges people have with it. Steve's business caters to people who don't have time to spend seaching for the perfect someone. 

Charles A. Johnson is a Huffington Post Dating Contributor, Certified Life Coach, and the Author of "How to Find the Right One and Make it Last!" He joins the show to discuss how guys can "tech-up" their dating skills.   Johnson believes the mobile phone is the new weapon to finding "The One." He shares some do’s and don’ts every guy should know about online dating.    Johnson also discusses bad habits guys need to rid themselves of.    Find out more about Charles A. Johnson at www.askcharlesjohnson.com.   After more than 20 years in the military and 16 in a corporate environment, Charles Johnson found another calling in life.  In both the Air Force as well the many companies he founded or worked in, Charles managed and mentored diverse teams across Europe, Asia and North America.  But he wasn’t your typical corporate manager.       Charles always focused more on the whole person and how to help those who worked with and around him find balance and achieve both personal and professional success.  He found tha

Samara O'Shea is a professional blogger for the Huffington Post, former blogger at Powell's Books and TalkingMakeup.com, and founder of Letter Lover - a professional letter writing firm. She's also the author of, "Loves Me…Not: How to Survive (and Thrive!) in the Face of Unrequited Love." O'Shea starts the show by discussing some qualities that make guys "a dick." She explains how a guy can recognize and move on from unrequited love and how they can start loving themselves when someone they love doesn’t love them back. O'Shea then discusses the difference between love and addiction and the positives to being single. O'Shea also wrote the book, "For the Love of Letters: A 21st-Century Guide to the Art of Letter Writing." She tells us more about letter writing and how she previously ran an online letter-writing service at LetterLover.net. The conversation then shifts to the modern publishing process, like books and blogs. O'Shea shares tips on how people can get blogging gigs, and then tops off the intervie

George Moufarrej is the author of, "Sexual Euphoria: A Complete Guide For Men and Women." He joins the show to discuss how guys can effectively communicate with women without committing social faux pas.  Moufarrej goes in-depth on what is necessary for a successful relationship. He explains whether online dating is rushing people into relationships and if it gives people a false sense of intimacy.

On this episode of Swank Life, Jake Swank does a 180 on the topic of dating techniques for men and is joined by dating coach for women, Jenn Burton for a discussion of how women can improve their dating and relationship experiences. Listen at:  www.SwankLife.com. Jenn shares her own experiences and talks about some of the common mistakes that women make when they meet men, such as appearing needy or putting up walls. She encourages women to change their view ...

Communication is a tough subject, with distinct neurological differences in the wiring of men and women’s brains. Men communicate data, while women communicate to connect. Jake Swank is joined by dating and relationship expert, Adam Gilad, for an explanation of effective communication in online dating. For details, listen at:  www.SwankLife.com. Some of the tips Adam gives for effective profiles are:  Men need to learn the language of sensuality in order to create a romantic atmosphere for a woman; humor, sweetness, ...