Over It And On With It

This episode is about healing trauma. Today’s caller, Anne, is a musician who wants to expand her creative expression but feels blocked due to the sexual abuse she experienced. She has done a lot of personal development work but still has difficulty fully expressing herself. She wants guidance on how to navigate through her trauma to heal it.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode295]   Trauma impacts and/or injures the nervous system. When a person experiences extreme trauma the brain goes into survival, which means fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. The brain is always on the lookout for danger and it is exhausting. That is why we experience fear and anxiety.   I can’t label what “extreme” is because two people can have the same situation happen to them and one person may register in their nervous system as not that big of a deal, but another person with the same circumstances can register it as a really big deal.   When we are healing trauma it is not about reliving it. It is about providing

Julie Bjelland is a Psychotherapist specializing in high sensitivity, host of The HSP Podcast, and Founder of the Sensitive Empowerment Community, whose mission is to create a paradigm shift where sensitivity is embraced, valued, and honored. Julie offers essential resources for educating, inspiring, and empowering HSPs. Register for her free Masterclasses, take the Sensitivity Quiz and profoundly transform your life in her courses and community. Her HSPs in Business Group is designed to support and empower sensitive people to grow heart-centered businesses, share their voices, and be part of the change the world needs.JulieBjelland.com

This episode is about holding space for our partners. Today’s caller, Brandon, would like guidance on how to be in the healthy space of masculine and feminine presence. It is a lovely conversation about integration and holding space when you get to a place where you feel wonderful, but your partner isn’t quite there.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode294]   When someone comes to us and vents, there is a desire to want to fix whatever it is. The masculine tends to want to fix. The feminine tends to want to take it on and over-empathize into sympathy or go into a caretaker role. We all have masculine and feminine energetics inside of us.   Underneath any upset is an unmet need. When we can find the need in an argument or a trigger inside ourselves, we can begin to deal with the true trigger. When we are trying to ease the trigger with talk or action, it usually doesn’t work because we are not reaching the unmet need.   Remember, everyone is on their own path. When one person gets to a place

What are boundaries? How do we set them and keep them? How do we know if our boundaries have been crossed? These are just some of the juicy questions that Terri Cole, author of the book, Boundary Boss, answers. You will get so much value out of this conversation and it will improve all of your relationships!   Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist and global relationship and empowerment expert. For over two decades, Terri has worked with a diverse group of clients that includes everyone from stay-at-home moms to celebrities and Fortune 500 CEOs. She has a gift for making complex psychological concepts accessible and actionable so that clients and students achieve sustainable change. She inspires over 250,000 people weekly through her blog, social media platform, signature courses, and her popular podcast, The Terri Cole Show. To get your copy of the book and the free gifts from Terri, go to https://boundarybossbook.com/

This episode is about loving your big feelings and emotions. Today’s caller, Beth, wants to feel comfortable in her skin. In her childhood home, her gift of being an empath became a liability. Whoever is the most open, the most sensitive one in a family often absorbs everyone else's feelings. Beth would like guidance on how to keep her heart open but not feel overwhelmed by her feelings.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode293]   In today's world, it's often hard to keep our hearts open. So many people are numb, or shut down from feeling, or are scared to feel the “negative” feelings like sadness and anger, or have built walls and around their hearts and wear masks every day. When we are empathic and live among people who suppress, we feel it all.   Oftentimes, what makes an empath’s heart hurt is feeling sympathy or sorry. It is feeling someone else's pain and suffering so much so that we feel bad for them. It is a judgment. When we are in sympathy we are judging.   The truth is none of us

Stefanos joins Christine again to share tips for how to manage challenging conversations and moments in a relationship.  Any relationship, not just romantic ones, hit periods of growth where the relationship needs to get to the next level. This can be confronting for one or both people. In this episode we give you advice on when to pause and allow integration to happen (rather than keep processing) as well as a tool called "pendulating."   To join us for our group coaching call on relationships, go to www.christinehassler.com/group

This episode is about calming an anxious or hypervigilant mind. Today’s caller, Demi, has a pattern of obsessive-compulsive thinking, anxiety, and a worst-case scenario mindset. She would like guidance on how to calm her mind and be more compassionate with herself. It is a very human trait to worry and have anxiety, especially for people who grew up in a chaotic home.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode292]   One of the ways we can deal with hypervigilance or anxiety is by witnessing it. It is important we do our best not to make it wrong and accept it. The moment we realize it is not us, the moment we recognize it as OCD, our inner critic, or when we can name it, it gives us a sense of control. It makes it feel as if it is not a runaway train. That’s how we begin to calm down.   The pattern of not being able to relax but also feeling like you are not doing enough is caused by the emotion underneath the hypervigilance we don’t want to feel. And, with hypervigilance comes increased sensitiv

I have looked long and hard for a fertility expert that has both heart and correct, research backed, up to date expertise...and I found it all in Dr. Cleopatra.  If you have any questions or concerns about your reproductive health and longevity, you will love this reassuring and informative episode.   Dr. Cleopatra is The Fertility Strategist and Executive Director of the Fertility & Pregnancy Institute. The mission of the Fertility & Pregnancy Institute is to see what others can’t using the best of love, science, and commitment to help ensure that your fertility keeps up with your high-achieving life so that you get to have as many superbabies as your heart desires. Dr. Cleopatra is a scientist and university professor specializing in fertility, pregnancy, and how health is transmitted from one generation to the next. To date, she has received nearly $3 million in grant funding from the National Institutes of Health, the National Science Foundation, the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, and othe

This episode is about letting go of patterns and relationships that no longer serve you. Today’s caller, Barbara, has a pattern of staying in things long after they are dead, long after the signs say something is no longer in alignment with her life, or it is depleting her life in some way. The pattern of trying to breathe new life into something already dead is a waste of a precious life force. If you can relate to holding on to things for too long or staying in relationships after their expiration date has expired, this episode is for you.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode291]   Being able to nurture and be empathetic and feel what others are going through is a gift. Gifts usually come with a learning opportunity. The gift of being incredibly caring and empathic comes with the learning opportunity of boundaries, of not loving or caring for another so much that we lose sight of ourselves.   If you want to step into your gifts as a healer, empath, teacher, or true caregiver without deple

Stef (Christine's husband) is back on the podcast to talk with me about the common challenges we see couples face and how to overcome them.  We will also be hosting a virtual relationship retreat in June, go to www.christinehassler.com/relationshipsupport to get on the early bird list for discounts and details. 

This episode is about loving our inner child and making them feel safe. Today’s caller, Mikaela, has a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety stemming from the chaos that surrounded her in her childhood home. She wants to feel safe and be seen. This call is great support for any of you who feel fear even if it isn’t reasonable for a situation. Or, those of you who are confused about how to connect to your inner child.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode290]   For parents or anybody who wants to be a parent, it is very important you continue to parent, or start to parent your inner child when you have children. When someone who had a difficult childhood has a child, they become a great parent to their child. Much better than the parents they had. But it can activate their inner child because their inner child wants to know why they are not receiving the same love and attention from them. Our inner children can act up and act out.   Parenting our inner child does not take anything away from o

Christine answers two listener questions. The first is around the fear of abandonment....what causes is, how it shows up in life, and how to heal it. The second question is regarding how to be with friends going through a hard time without being "life coachy" with them.   Also you can take the love block quiz Christine mentioned to find out what fear hold you back here: https://stefanossifandos.com/love-block-quiz/

This episode is about how to shift personality patterns. Today’s caller, Nikhi, is looking for guidance on how to speak up for herself and how to ask for what she wants. She has completed two Inner Child Workshops and is ready to work through the resistance she feels as she begins to shift her patterns.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode289]   Doing personal growth work, especially inner child work, doesn’t mean that boom, all of a sudden you’re healed. It takes time. The patterns we develop, the coping strategies, the results from our wounding have been there for many years. It takes time for something to move from awareness to integration.   The enduring pattern develops around age three because our need at that age is expression, to be able to express our feelings, to be able to express who we are, and to feel like it’s safe to be ourselves. If we lived in a family where emotional expression wasn’t encouraged, or we were to be seen, not heard, or we were told what to do, we had to figu

Erika Aluara is a friend and personal healer of Christine's. She is an intuitive, channel and a transcendence coach partnering people to experience not only unrecognizable transformation but true transcendence. In this interview, she also clears YOU the listener which is not to miss!! Erika draws on her extensive training and experience to incorporate multiple modalities, including Psychic Channeling, Spiritual Response Therapy, Past Life Clearing and ThetaHealing®. Erika is deeply passionate about holding the space and sifting through the elements her clients reject, repress or fear about themselves — discreetly, confidentially and without judgment — transmuting that negative emotion into peace, understanding and ultimately, acceptance.  If you are interested in an integrative approach with sustainability as its core feel free to book in for a consultation session, the experience is beyond priceless!   You can learn more about: https://www.erikaalaura.com/

This episode is about honoring emotions with compassion and acceptance. Today’s caller, Olivia, is going through a unique situation. She is feeling confused by her emotions and would like guidance on how to feel her feelings without going into “victim” and how to grieve after a loss.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode288]   It is normal for emotions to be confusing. We live in a mental, logical, linear-based world where we want certainty. We want things to make sense. But life isn’t linear, there aren’t five steps to make every sense of everything. Life is messy. It’s complicated. It’s a journey. Especially when it comes to emotions, we don’t want to try to manage them, understand them, or know why. We just need to learn how to feel and move through them. But, often, our mind gets in the way. This is the biggest reason so many people deal with repression, suppression, depression and then have to distract themselves or develop addictions. It’s because we don’t know how to be with our emoti

We all know self-love is incredibly important but what does it mean and how do you do it? Listen in for a Coaches Corner where Christine discusses a way to practice and understand self-love. 

This episode is about honoring your needs and speaking your truth. I coach today’s caller, Judy, through her feelings of isolation and empower her to have an honest conversation with her husband and herself about her needs.   [For show notes go here: Christinehassler.com/episode287]   Loneliness is an epidemic, especially in this day and age when so many of us live alone. We are not close to our family geographically or we don’t have a soul family or community to be a part of. We need a healing connection. We need to feel part of something, part of a tribe. We need to feel connected to ourselves. What often perpetuates a feeling of loneliness is a disconnection from ourselves that comes from judging ourselves and being hard on ourselves. If you suffer from loneliness or a lack of self-esteem, you are not alone. Let the fact that you are not alone motivate you to gain confidence and to connect with a community.   Speaking your truth is when you say what’s true for you and you are able to communicate your needs

Christine answers the question: How do we truly move into acceptance of something turning out differently than we want and truly let go?"  Acceptance is one of the most powerful things we can do for our healing and growth, yet it is often so difficult because what we have to accept is a reality we don't want.  Christine teaches what acceptance actually is and the importance of moving out of regret, shoulda coulda woulda thinking, and how to move through our disappointments rather than get stuck.

This call is about breaking patterns with self-compassion. Today’s caller, Maria, has been unfaithful in her relationships since the age of fifteen. She carries shame and judgment around it. Romantic relationships are so greatly influenced by our childhood wounds. In this call, you will see how Maria’s childhood is impacting how she shows up in relationships today and why she’s cheating.   [For show notes, go here: Christinehassler.com/episode286]   Shame and judgment are heavy and toxic. They are the things that keep us from shifting and changing. Yet, they make us want to change even more because the more shame we feel and the more we judge ourselves the more committed we are to changing. We may go to therapy, take courses, or listen to podcasts but it doesn’t change things. Shame and judgment can be the catalyst for something we need to shift but we must move into compassion and acceptance in order to get to the healing that creates the shift.   Sometimes, we have to face our worst fears in order to not ha

Listen in as Christine discusses why growth can be so painful, why the pain is not “bad”, ways to decrease the pain, and why the pain is NOT necessary for growth.    Link to blog/podcast she mentions: https://christinehassler.com/2018/03/do-you-have-enough-