Over It And On With It

Collectively we are all going through a rebalancing of masculine and feminine energies, not only in what it means to be a man or a woman, but what it means to be human. We are just moving into rebalancing this energy so masculine and feminine energies can be in flow together. While women struggle to find their place in the masculine energy, men struggle to fit into more feminine things, such as being vulnerable or pursuing more creative endeavors that may feel less manly. This is not a time to be discouraged. We are all longing for belonging and connection. This episode is about questioning the old paradigms and rules. Today’s caller, Jake, thinks he is stuck, but from my point of view he is at a crossroads. Will he continue to let old programming and belief systems drive him, or will he make a commitment to move past the fear of old paradigms, and step into his full potential? During the call, I didn’t want to take Jake down the road of investigating his past, because he had already spent too much time analy

“A core principle of my own life, and upon which this company was founded, is that one should leave everything and everyone better than you found them.” Jordan Harbinger has always had an affinity for social influence, interpersonal dynamics, and social engineering, helping private companies test the security of their communications systems and working with law enforcement agencies before he was even old enough to drive. Forbes named him one of the 50 best relationship-builders anywhere and Inc. Magazine calls him “the Charlie Rose of Podcasting.” Jordan has spent several years abroad in Europe and the developing world, including South America, Eastern Europe, and the Middle East, and speaks five languages. He has also worked for various governments and NGOs overseas, traveled through war zones, and been kidnapped — twice.  The only reason he’s still alive and kicking is because of his ability to talk his way into (and out of) just about any type of situation. Here at The Art of Charm, Jordan shares that expe

This episode is about fulfillment and what to do when we start to feel restless, bored, or lose our passion for something. Today’s caller, Corey, is feeling unfulfilled regarding his job, but many of you may be feeling unfulfilled in your romantic relationship or friendships. Corey thought the solution to his lack of fulfillment was changing his job, but he didn’t know what to do instead. A lack of fulfillment often comes with a lack of clarity. Corey will gain clarity and feel fully, authentically self-expressed, the more he takes risks and listens to his heart. We think that changing the external situation of finding a new job, or finding someone new to be with, is the answer -- that is not often the solution. It could perpetuate the problem. So, what are you truly longing for? Tap into the longing, and instead of thinking you need to change your external circumstances, think about how you can give yourself what you are longing for, now. How can you take action, and create behaviors that support you?  Befor

I have heard from so many listeners about how to deal with the Expectation Hangover they are experiencing regarding the presidential election in the states.  This is a special edition of Coaches Corner where I share a few thoughts about this time and encourage you to choose love not fear.  I also lead a guided meditation. I am reminded (and comforted) by the fact that sometimes a massive expectation hangover is needed to create massive change. This is a time where those of us who continue to choose love instead of fear are needed even more.

When we are so paralyzed by the fear of making mistakes or failing, we don’t develop grit. Grit is what gives us confidence. If we don’t have to figure things out on our own we find ourselves paralyzed when making choices as we get older. When parents place too many expectations on their children, their children may grow into adults that don’t know what they truly want. If you are a millennial, take the pressure off of yourself to make the right choice and allow yourself to make a mistake. Failure is how you learn. If you are the boss, manager or parent of a millennial, stop making all of their decisions for them. This episode will be useful for ANYONE at any age. Today’s caller, Lorena, is having a highly-charged emotional reaction to the circumstances in her life. The pressure of living up to parental expectations is clouding her ability to decide what she truly wants.   ● If you are a millennial and you are having difficulty with your parents, remember you are the child. It is not your responsibility to li

This is an incredibly important conversation to listen to.  Alexandra and I talk about what is really underneath our food craving and how we can satisfy ourselves in a healthy and lasting way.   As the best-selling author of Women, Food & Desire, co-creator and co-star of the Oscar-nominated documentary Super Size Me, and highly-sought-after wellness expert for thousands, Alexandra Jamieson has made it her mission to empower women to create epic lives--by honoring their cravings and kicking body shame to the curb. She is the creator of The Crave Cast, a #1 rated podcast on iTunes where listeners from around the world are educated and captivated by thought-provoking interviews on wellness, cravings, sexuality, and more. Her work has been praised and adored by Oprah, The Today Show, Dr. Oz, Goop, Martha Stewart Living, the New York Times, CNN, Fox News, Elle, Marie Claire, USA Today, People, and the American Heart Association amongst many others. As a life-long learner, her wellness expertise has grown out

Are you hard on yourself, especially when it comes to your appearance? Do you do something, and then immediately wish you had done it differently? Many of us allow our inner critics to expend energy on low-frequency, physically exhausting, nasty, self-defeating self-talk. You may not realize it, but your self-talk influences the way other people receive you. If you are happy and filled with self-acceptance, you send out a good vibe. If you are negative or hard on yourself, you can suck the life right out of the room. Today’s caller, Gabby, is struggling with her weight and self-worth. She is clinging to the away-from-motivation of ‘if only I this,’ and ‘if only I that,’ instead of using toward-motivation, to get what she really wants. During the call, Gabby’s energy shifts as soon as we discuss creativity and connection. This toward-motivation practice allows her to focus her energy on what she wants to bring into her life, instead of what she wants to move away from. This practice is sustainable, because she

This is a MUST LISTEN. One of my favorite people in the world and someone who is truly a soul brother to me, Aubrey Marcus, and I talk about purpose, relationship, having a tribe and going through the FIRE of life (aka the personal growth path).   A little about Aubrey….   He is committed to empowering people to achieve their fullest human potential. He is the founder of Onnit, known for nutritional supplements based on a holistic health philosophy he calls Total Human Optimization. Aubrey Marcus has since grown Onnit into an industry leader, providing innovative peak performance supplements, foods, fitness equipment, and apparel.   Aubrey has a degree in philosophy, a multi-sport athlete (check out his instagram page @aubreymarcus and see some of the crazy physical stuff) and lives life with intense focus and willingness to seek the Truth.   He is about to start a new course which you can join in on “Go for your win” which you can learn more about at www.goforyourwin.com   And get a discount on any Onnit pro

The human experience is a beautiful thing, even when it’s challenging. It is sacred when someone is vulnerable. Today’s caller, Toni, shares her vulnerability as she asks for guidance. She reveals that many of the decisions of her life come from a place of fear. Toni is confused about what security and love really are. We talk about having a relationship with a higher power especially after she has gone through times in her life when she didn’t feel there was any kind of God. There IS some kind of higher power. There are so many names for it, so many ways people interpret it, but to me, it is infinite unconditional love. It may be hard to believe in any kind of God, when there is so much suffering in the world. The best way I can attempt to understand all the horrible things that happen, is that they happen as a result of human choice and free will. While many human choices are still made from a place of pain and fear, we are in a time of awakening. We are in a massive shift in consciousness. What is availabl

So much good stuff in this coaches corner.  Everything from dealing with a break-up, to dating tips (learn how to write a great online profile), to being better in your relationship.   Listen to my friend and incredible dating coach, Marni Battista and I share about love and dating.   A little more about Marni: Marni Battista has a Masters in Education and is a Certified Life Coach by the International Coaching Federation. She is also a Master Practitioner at administering an Energy Assessment, “The D-Factor,” that helps clients pinpoint exactly why they are, or are not date-able, and what types of messages they are unconsciously broadcasting to others based on their thoughts, feelings, actions and attitudes. Marni is also trained as a Facilitator and Mentor Trainer by the Hoffman Institute, a world-renowned leader in personal development. In addition, Marni is the on-camera Dating & Relationship Coach to Tristan Couveras, star of the new hit reality TV show, “ControlTV,” produced by Seth Green and Ken Fu

Do you feel a yearning to have a child? All women feel a desire to create, to give birth to things and to experience unconditional love. Sometimes, we project that on external things. Or, maybe we women feel we need to have a purpose. It may be that we need to move into a place of unconditional love for ourselves. We need to learn to love and nurture ourselves. You don’t want to have a child and then expect the child to fill your inner voids, or to make up for all the places you don’t love yourself. We should be as clear as possible about our decision to have a child, before bringing a baby into the world, so we do not project our emotional wounds on to the child. So consider, are you sure it is a baby you want, or is it something else you are yearning for? It takes courage to investigate what is true for us. Today’s caller, Jenny, is struggling with whether or not she wants to have children. As we dig deeper, it becomes apparent her issue is really about her honoring her own truth, and how she may not be abl

Originally from Chicago, Samantha Bennett is a writer, speaker, actor, teacher and creativity/productivity specialist and the author of the bestselling, "Get It Done: From Procrastination to Creative Genius in 15 Minutes a Day" (New World Library). She is the creator of the www.TheOrganizedArtistCompany.com, dedicated to helping creative people get unstuck, especially by helping them focus and move forward on their goals. Now based in a tiny beach town outside of Los Angeles, CA, Bennett offers workshops, keynotes and private consulting. She also makes a heck of a roast chicken.    Her latest book is, "Start Right Where You Are: How Little Changes Can Make a Big Difference for Overwhelmed Procrastinators, Frustrated Overachievers and Recovering Perfectionists" (New World Library, Nov. 2016)

Today’s caller, Emma, is seeking guidance after a breakup. She would like to move forward with building her business but finds herself battling with self-doubt and procrastination. Emma is taking ownership of the issue and has a high-level of self-awareness about it, but she needs to uncover what is holding her back.  When we ask ourselves the question “what am I learning from this situation?” instead of “why did it happen to me?” we unlock something which is critical to our growth and healing. When a relationship ends, we are never 100% victims. We need to take 100% responsibility for the 50% which is our part. That said, we must do so without self-judgment or blame. We must accept we did the best we could with what we had at the time, and we now have an opportunity to do better moving forward. In future relationships, Emma has the opportunity to be more intimate. She was playing out the same patterns of withholding and people pleasing in her business, as she did in her marriage. Instead of being vulnerable

You’ll love my interview with my dear soul sister Alexi who is seriously a major FORCE of light, love and inspiration in the world today.  We talk about fear, the imposter syndrome, meeting the love of your life (and how it often looks different than you expect) and much more.    A little more about Alexi: Alexi Panos is an author, transformational vlogger, entrepreneur and humanitarian who is on a mission to make personal development mainstream by synthesizing big ideas into fun, bite sized nuggets of goodness that spread throughout the world and create a ripple effect of positivity and love.   Alexi helps people discover how to access personal freedom, love and REAL happiness through a blend of ancient wisdom, psychology, somatic teachings, NLP and philosophy—shooting straight from the heart with her no-nonsense and passionate delivery of authenticity, quirkiness and fun.  She teaches people how to ditch their limiting stories and mindsets and set out to create the life they’ve always dreamed of.   Whether

Today’s caller, Trish, thinks she is calling in for career advice but during the session, she discovers her own self-doubt is the barrier to her growth. It takes courage to look inward and see our biggest roadblock is ourselves. We must deal with these roadblocks with compassion and truth. Truth with love, compassion and gentleness is how we must deal with ourselves when we doubt ourselves, question our own worth or create our own suffering.  You must not buy into the belief you must be stern or harsh with yourself in order to shift. Judgment only reinforces a disconnection with your own inner knowing. If you want to be able to tap into your intuition and make choices that are most authentically aligned for you on your soul path, you must be mindful of how you are with yourself. Be a compassionate and honest coach to yourself. Let your mission and your passion become more important than your self-doubt. A major trap for people seeking clarity about their life or career path is they get too far ahead of themse

Listen in to a talk with me and one of my soul sisters (who lives in Bali) as we talk about optimal health. If you have ever done (or want to do) a cleanse or detox, this is a MUST listen.  Kate also shares about her own journey as a healer and the importance of learning boundaries and self-care.  Be sure to listen to the end because Kate leads us through an AWESOME guided mediation to connect more deeply to your intuition.   A bit more about Kate: Kate Reardon has two Bachelor Degrees in Health Science specializing in Complementary Medicine, Naturopathy and Nutritional Medicine. But early on in clinical practice she knew she was never going to be your typical Naturopath or Nutritionist… You see she has a very strong intuition that allows her access to see, feel and know things about people that they often cannot see within themselves. This ‘gift’, which she has had since childhood (yep she’s been communicating with the spirit world a long time), has brought her enormous blessings and challenges throughout he

Do you relate to yourself as a constant self-improvement project and find yourself overdosing on personal growth? Maybe, you should take a little break to enjoy life. Being in a state of learning and growing is different than coming from a place of “I need to fix me”. You can not be fixed because you are not broken. Self-love includes accepting and being gentle with our inner critic when it pops up. We are human. We are not going to love everything about ourselves at all times. Self-love is a daily practice of forgiving ourselves so we can take responsibility for our actions without beating ourselves up. Today’s caller, Aly, wants to move into acceptance of an illness but she is attempting to do it with a lot of judgment about herself and not from a place of love. Women endure a lot of negative energy and pain about their bodies. Practice appreciation over criticism and pay attention to the gifts your body brings, rather than the way it looks. If you really want your body to look different, commit to treating

Christine shares some of the lessons and blessings from Bali with you!! This is an uplifting episode to remind you of how to feel more joy, connection and devotion in your life.

Do you honor the changing seasons of your life? As humans, we love the seasons of life where everything feels good and we are full of inspiration. But can we love or accept the seasons that don’t feel good? While the winter seasons of life can be brutal, eventually the spring does arrive. If we rush our process or try to push through things like grief and loss, we can harden and suppress emotion which is not healthy on any level. Today’s caller, Brittaney, is grieving and finds herself in a challenging season of her life. She recently lost her grandmother and went through a romantic break-up at almost the same time. Brittaney doesn’t feel like herself and feels she has lost her passion for life. She would like to get #OverItandOnWithIt but there may be something else she needs to experience first. If you are going through any type of loss, it is important to cry all of your tears. There is a big difference in indulging in emotion and going through the natural emotion of losing someone you love. If you are sup

Listen in for a candid conversation about what it takes to be build a business, create a community and take action on a vision with Jason Nazar.   Jason is an active tech entrepreneur, investor, & writer & the CEO of Comparably, the online platform to understand workplace compensation & culture.  Before Comparably, Jason founded Docstoc, the largest content site to help small business.  Over 7 years Docstoc was one of the most visited websites in the world and grew to over 50 million members, before it was acquired by Intuit in 2013.  Jason also created & hosts Startups Uncensored, the longest running and most widely attended technology gathering in SoCal.  Jason received his JD/MBA from Pepperdine University & BA from UCSB where he was the student body president of both universities. He is currently serving as the Entrepreneur in Residence for the City of Los Angeles, appointed by Mayor Garcetti.  He’s a frequent and popular writer on Forbes, Wall Street Journal & Business Insider. Ja