Shameless Sex

What are the most common fantasies people have? Where do they come from? Why do we have them? And how do I talk to my partner about my fantasies? How can we bring fantasy into real life?  Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011 and he has published articles in numerous media outlets, including Playboy, USA Today, VICE, Politic

What do I do if my partner asks me to do role-play and I'm uncomfortable with being in the spotlight? How does one learn how to do authentic yet sexy role-play? And what about dominance? Can I learn how to tap into my most confident, dominant self (even when I don't feel it in everyday life)? Join us for this playful yet informative episode with world renown sex educator, Midori. We talk about role-play, dominance, outing the awkward, confidence, making negotiation sexy, and more!  We also answer a sex question: I feel like I'm the one who is always initiating sex. How do I get my partner to initiate more often?  About Midori: Dan Savage calls Midori “The Supernova of Kink!” She is an artistic visionary who has touched lives across the globe with her expertise in sexuality, personal fulfillment, and kinky adventures. Using her “head-heart-hands” methodology she facilitates tackling challenging topics and creating space where people are allowed individual self-exploration. Her passion is fully on display in he

In this episode we chat with Dr. Lee Phillips about chronic illness and chronic pain and how they affect sex and relationships. Dr. Phillips shares tools such as sensate focus, as well as ways partners can support their loved ones with chronic illness.  We also answer a sex question: Great sex during an affair...should I leave my husband?  About our guest: Dr. Melvin L. Phillips, Jr., is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) with a private practice in Washington, DC where he treats chronic illness and sexual dysfunction, as well as the author of the upcoming book Sex and Love When You Are Sick, due to release in late 2019. He is a speaker and has lectured on topics including preventative services, anxiety and stress management, caregiving stress, depression in the elderly, mindfulness and cognitive strategies for chronic pain, ethical decision making, and the assessment of mental disorders. To learn more visit www.drleephillips.com

We are SO excited about this episode. Emily Nagoski AKA one of our idols and author of the groundbreaking book Come As You Are joins us to talk all about female sexuality. We talk vulvas, clits, g-spots, orgasm, and all about how WE ARE ALL "normal”!  We also answer a sex question from a female-identified listener: Are the homosexual thoughts just in my head or should I leave my heterosexual relationship? About Emily: Emily Nagoski, Ph.D is the award-winning  author of the New York Times bestseller, Come As You Are: the surprising new science that will transform your sex life and The Come As You Are Workbook, and co-author, with her sister Amelia, of Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle. She began her work as a sex educator at the University of Delaware, where volunteered as a peer sex educator while studying psychology with minors in cognitive science and philosophy. She went on to earn a M.S. in Counseling and a Ph.D. in Health Behavior, both from Indiana University, with clinical and resea

We have received a number of emails about asexuality, so we wanted to take a moment to speak on what is often considered “the invisible orientation”. In this episode we talk about the asexual spectrum, including aromatic and demisexuality. We answer a few questions including whether or not asexuality is real (it MOST CERTAINLY is), the difference between asexuality and low sexual desire, and more. Please note that we are not experts in this department, and we would LOVE to host someone who is, so please send them our way!

Amy's partner joins us on this week's episode as we discuss everything from how to have great sex after 5+ years, our opinion on quality vs. quantity (sex), working with worthiness issues, and communication how-to's. Enjoy!

Special announcement about our myth and shame busting campaign on Instagram! We are running a V-day contest + female sexuality myth and shame busting campaign - inspired by Wednesday Martin 's groundbreaking book UNTRUE: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Adultery is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free. Are you ready to join the Shameless Sex Revolution?    Prizes include complete access to our online Wild Woman Sex workshop, a copy of Untrue by Wednesday Martin, and a GRAND PRIZE of all of the above + a Rabbit Vibrator + full access to OMGyes + bottle of Uberlube + a Solo by Hot Octopus + a 12 Sexy Days kit by Bijoux Indiscrets - a total value of over $1000!   How to enter: 1. Take a selfie like the one above, 2. Either post it on your own Instagram profile with a caption similar to April's vulnerable share at the end of this post (describing this part of you, what it teaches/inspires in you, etc) + tag @shamelesssex in the post, OR send it to us and we will post it on our Ins

It's myth-busting time! Most folks with disabilities are also sexual beings with arousal and desire, and yet are often treated as asexual and/or invisible in society. Join us as we chat with Lindsey, a body-worker who shares her personal journey with sex and disabilities with lovers, as well as in a professional setting. Plus plenty of info on erectile issues, playing with soft cocks, and more!

Aaron Alexander of the Align Podcast sits down with Amy to discuss everything from male multiple orgasms, ejaculatory control, childhood wounding, good vs. so-so therapy, tricks for slowing down, and more.  Aaron Alexander CR, LMT, CPT is an accomplished manual therapist and movement coach with over 13 years of professional experience. He is the founder of the Align Method™, an integrated approach to functional movement and self-care that has helped thousands of people out of pain and into health. He hosts the top-rated Align Podcast featuring the biggest names in movement and wellness. Aaron’s clients include Hollywood celebrities, Olympic/professional athletes and everyone in between. He teaches workshops and speaks at events all over the world. Check out Aaron's offerings at https://alignpodcast.com For the astrology Amy spoke of, visit www.empoweryourelements.com

The research is in: Hormonal birth control can have a significant affect on your libido. And guess what? There are other SCIENCE-PROVEN non-hormonal options (other than the IUD) out there - whether you are wanting birth control or trying to get pregnant! Tune in to learn more.  Lisa Hendrickson-Jack is a certified Fertility Awareness Educator and Holistic Reproductive Health Practitioner who teaches women to chart their menstrual cycles for natural birth control, conception, and monitoring overall health. In her new book The Fifth Vital Sign, Lisa debunks the myth that regular ovulation is only important when you want children by recognizing the menstrual cycle as a vital sign. Drawing heavily from the current scientific literature, Lisa presents an evidence-based approach to fertility awareness and menstrual cycle optimization. She hosts the Fertility Friday Podcast, a weekly radio show devoted to helping women connect to their fifth vital sign by uncovering the connection between menstrual cycle health, fer

Join us as we chat with our dear friend Emily about our top sex toy recommendations and how-to's, as well as porn (is addiction real?), and how to navigate breakups and ex's. This episode is extra special as Emily was the original inspiration for creating our own show! Check out our first episode on Sex With Emily called Orgasms, Squirting, and The Year of Anal Licking here More about Emily: Dr. Emily Morse is the creator and host of one the top podcasts called Sex With Emily. With a Doctorate if Human Sexuality she has also co-hosted the famed Loveline Radio Show with Dr. Drew Pinsky, and starred in the Bravo TV series, Miss Advised. She’s been named as one of Esquire’s & Stylecaster’s top sex & love podcasters, and voted the #1 dating & sex expert to follow on Twitter. She is an author, masthead contributor to Cosmopolitan Magazine, and creator of her own mobile apps. Now the longest running sex and relationship podcast, Sex with Emily is downloaded nearly one million times each month and continues to sit a

In an open relationship and want to learn tools to navigate the (sometimes treacherous) waters? Practicing monogamy yet interested in opening things up? And what's the difference between polyamory, monoga-mish, swinging, etc? Tune in as we chat with Jamie Joy, sex educator and non-monogamy expert on all things Beyond Monogamy.  MONOGAMOUS FOLKS - This episode is for you as well. Most of these tools apply to ALL relationships, so be sure to check it out. 

Aloha! This episode was recorded from beautiful Kauai where Amy and April celebrated two of the most important women in the world..their mamas! The duo share shame, daddy issues, New Years resolutions, and more. Enjoy!

Ev’Yan Whitney is a sex educator, sex activist, and sexuality doula who helps facilitate, educate, and hold space for women and femme-identifying folks who want to step out of sexual shame and into erotic empowerment. She's the host of The Sexually Liberated Woman podcast and the creator of the wildly successful Sensual Selfie Challenge on Instagram. You can find out more about Ev'Yan's work at sexloveliberation.com and see her brazenly showing off her sexuality on Instagram @evyan.whitney  

In this quickie episode we interview Dr. Sara Tanza, Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist (see episode #31 from previous interview) about sex after pregnancy and some of the common issues women run into - even years after giving birth.  To learn more about Dr. Tanza visit https://pelvicpotential.com In or near the Santa Cruz area? Come to her workshop (co-facilliatated by our very own Amy Baldwin) on January 8th, 2019. To sign up visit the Pure Pleasure Shop Website  

Ceara Lynch has a ten+ year career as a self-described humiliatrix, catering to a wide variety of sexual fetishes over the internet, and gaining exposure to a unique part of the human psyche. Visit her website at https://www.cearalynch.com, as well as her podcast at https://standardpodcast.com to learn more. 

Episode #64 titled What Women Wished You Knew About Oral Sex was one of our top episodes. So naturally we decided to bring back Shaun from the Love Drive Podcast to discuss What Men Wished You Knew About Oral Sex :) Shaun is a writer and host of The Love Drive, a playful and honest podcast that looks into the broad and captivating world of modern sexuality and intimacy. He brings humor and depth to the often awkward, scary topics of the heart and the loins. This podcast is unabashedly sex-positive, bright, and alive. To learn more visit thelovedrive.com We also answer this sex question: How can we both relax and not feel this intense pressure for him to get hard? Should we get drunk or something? I can't help but feel unwanted and unattractive :( And I'm sincerely bored of all the foreplay and I don't reallly want to do it anymore.   

There is no manual for navigating intimate experiences and too often doubt and confusion limit our capacity to feel pleasure. Do you ever wish you could deepen your intuition when it comes to knowing how to please your lover(s)? Learn how to access your intuition so you can be a more attuned and skilled lover while increasing your own capacity for pleasure!  Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and sexual empowerment educator who has been exploring the intricacies of sex and gender for more than a decade. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. A champion for others overcoming shame and deepening pleasure, Aly helps her clients radically explore and courageously express themselves. Aly designs workshops and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them. TurnON pleasure, intimacy and...lov

Wednesday Martin's newest work of non-fiction, UNTRUE: Why Nearly Everything We Believe About Women, Lust, and Adultery is Wrong and How the New Science Can Set Us Free cuts through the junk science and regressive cultural narratives that have shaped our beliefs about female infidelity for centuries, revealing a truth both liberating and disconcerting: women are no more “naturally monogamous” than men; nor are their libidos shrinking violets. Far from it. Offering insights from thirty experts as well as real women from all walks of life who refuse monogamy, UNTRUE also analyzes cultural shifts from plow agriculture to polyamory; introduces readers to two important "hidden figures" of American sex research; and takes readers on an immersive, fascinating journey—from the bonobo enclosure at the San Diego Zoo to an exclusive all-female sex party in Manhattan where most of the revelers identify as heterosexual. UNTRUE asserts that monogamy is a tighter fit for the fairer sex; that females of many species evolved

In this episode we dive deep into the the world of orgasms with Susan Bratton, “trusted hot sex advisor to millions”. Topics include top tips for better orgasms, hot sex in long term relationships, as well as Susan’s 14-year Expanded Orgasm/Orgasmic Meditation Practice. We also answer a sex question: I’m 23, sexually active, and never had an orgasm. Susan Bratton is a champion and advocate for all who desire passionate relationships. Considered the “Dear Abby of Sex,” Susan’s fresh approach and original ideas have helped millions of people of all ages and across the gender spectrum transform sex into passion. Susan has been featured in The New York Times and on CNBC and the TODAY show as well as appearing on ABC, CBS, The CW, Fox, and on NBC as the “Marriage Magician.” She has authored 20 books including her International #1 Amazon best-seller, Sexual Soulmates: The 6 Essentials for Connected Sex, and she has created and published numerous online courses including her wildly popular Revive Her Drive and Steam