On The Brighter Side

Send us a textWant to navigate this holiday season with ease and connection rather than stress and conflict? Join Nate Bagley and I as we discuss the complicated dynamics of holiday traditions, family gatherings, and the financial strain that often accompanies this joyous time. We offer insights into recognizing stress indicators in ourselves and our relationships—like emotional reactivity and perfectionism—and provide you with practical strategies to shift from a season of obligation to one filled with genuine joy and happiness.We talk about the importance of communication and planning to ease holiday tensions. Especially the importance of setting clear expectations for events, aligning on gift-giving preferences, and updating traditions to reflect shared family values. Nate and I swap personal stories and strategies on budgeting and creating thoughtful gift lists, emphasizing how these approaches can help maintain harmony. By focusing on what truly matters, we want to help you in transform holiday chaos int

Send us a textAre you ready for a BIG Announcement and fun surprise?Introducing my new co-host, Nate Bagley. Listen in as we reminisce about our first meeting at a Tennessee marketing conference and how his work with marriage legands like John and Julie Gottman first piqued my interest. Nate shares his experiences as his life took an unexpected turn during the pandemic. Nate and his wife made the bold decision to relocate to Costa Rica for a period of time and learned so much there. Hear Nate's heartfelt reflections on prioritizing his marriage amidst the chaos of a world-wide pandemic and his growing family.Parenting is a world unto itself, filled with both tender moments and unimaginable pressures. Hear the secret behind Nate's pink fingernails to the warmth of family traditions that make parenting rewarding. I share my woes about kids growing up and leaving home and we conclude that we must cherish every precious moment and show up for our marriage and family first and foremost.We are excited to

Send us a textFeeling like roommates or wrestling with resentment in your marriage? Discover how to rekindle an insanely fun and intimate partnership with actionable strategies in every episode.  After a six-month break filled with family milestones and personal growth, I'm back with a fresh perspective and a streamlined approach. This season promises simplicity and focus, ensuring you'll get top-notch marriage tips and intimacy resources straight into your busy life.  I’m bringing my BEST content here and into my upcoming book, offering you valuable insights without the hassle of a group settings.In a few short months, I'll be a certified RLT coach, and I’ll share how this method tackles the resistance to using relationship tools, creating thriving partnerships. I'm also thrilled to collaborate with a marriage researcher to discuss exciting, research-backed ideas in each episode. Tune into special bonus episodes all week to meet my special friend and co-host. Can't wait to dive into

Feeling the pressure of life's relentless to-do list and summer bucket list? In the finale episode of my third season, I'm revealing exactly how to ensure all of your relationships flourish, even when life throws chaos and overwhelm at you.  I'll teach you with my number one HACK to keep your calm and carry on, regardless of the hustle and bustle that may come your way. Get ready to fortify your bonds and strengthen all of your relationship with these simple and practical thoughts and gestures. Download the FREE resource, "75 Ways to Show Gratitude to Your Loved Ones" HERE --> https://monicatanner.com/gratitudeI'm taking a short break for the summer to love on my family, but I'll be back soon with brand new and improved episodes and interviews you won't want to miss. So, here's to a summer of love, laughter, and gratitude, and I can't wait to engage with you when I return for an exciting fourth season starting in August.

Ever wonder how some couples seem to navigate the ebbs and flows of marriage with grace and a smile? This week, I'm chatting with Brian and Jen Goins from Family Life, who join us to share their 27 years of wisdom on building a relationship that thrives.  We discuss the everyday skills essential for cultivating both individuality and unity in marriage. This episode isn't just about the dos and don'ts—it's an exploration of the delicate art of compromise, the celebration of our partner's uniqueness, and the passion that can be ignited through embracing our differences.Laughter and code words might sound like the ingredients for a spy novel, but in this episode, they're the secret spices for a strong marriage. We're not only talking about the romantic side of things but also about how to handle tough conversations with grace and love.  And for those moments when challenges arise, we discuss the transformative power of seeking guidance and the strength found in having a communi

Wondering what it takes to keep passion burning HOT  in the hustle of daily life? Alex and Katie Dutton join me this week to share the sparks of truth behind their EveryLove adventure—a service that's rekindling the fire in marriages through creative date night packages and model-free lingerie. They tell their story of entrepreneurship entwined with the commitment to nurturing a deep, intimate bond amidst the beautiful chaos of raising children and juggling careers.We go over the critical steps to prioritize intimacy, stressing the importance of defining its meaning for each individual.  We also cover aligning expectations and fostering open communication as well as how to schedule intimate moments without losing spontaneity, but ensuring that the love between you and your partner gets the attention it deserves.As we wrap up, the focus shifts to the power of community in supporting a happy marriage.  We leave you with an invitation to not just listen but to actively engage with us, as we champion the not

Have you ever felt like your conversations with loved ones are getting a little dry?This week's interview with Emmy Award-winner, Topaz Adizes shatters that pattern, unveiling "12 Questions for Love" to revolutionize our understanding of intimate dialogues. Topaz is known for his work on The { } And project and shares how carefully crafted questions can peel back the layers we often unintentionally wrap around those closest to us, liberating our relationships from the confines of the metaphorical boxes we've built.My discussion with Topaz sheds light on the magic of road trip-like environments that encourage raw, uninterrupted conversation, showing us how to replicate this space in our daily lives. Through anecdotes and insights, we unlock the secret to nurturing conversations that evolve as our relationships deepen, emphasizing the role of intentionality and the settings we create for fostering openness and vulnerability.This episode serves as a gentle reminder to approach our loved ones

Ready to become the author of your own love story?In this week's episode, I tackle the dreaded 'intimacy death traps,' dissecting the root causes that lead to disconnection and providing a comprehensive 5-step framework to navigate your way back to a fulfilling partnership. This isn't your run-of-the-mill relationship advice; it's a deep dive into taking responsibility, fostering judgment-free communication, and why initiating change can be your romantic game-changer. I'll be guiding you through the intricacies of assuming responsibility for the passion that's slipped through the cracks and how a simple shift towards curiosity and acceptance can transform your relationship dynamics. Discover the 'cheat code' to involving a third party in rebuilding intimacy, and learn why expressing love without restraint could be your ticket out of complacency. This episode isn't just about falling back into love—it's about creating a love that's going to grow, no m

As a seasoned relationship coach and intimacy expert, I've seen firsthand how easily couples can fall into intimacy death traps, letting the initial spark of their relationship dim. But fear not! I'm here to arm you with the knowledge to identify these traps and the strategies to avoid them. This week's episode is for anyone hoping to breathe new life into their intimate relationship. I invite you to reflect and engage with me by sharing your experiences and challenges. Your stories and feedback are the heart of our community, and together, we'll overcome the traps that keep couples trapped for decades. So, if you're ready to transform your marriage from mediocre to extraordinary, tune in and let's start crafting your love story with the skill and intention it deserves. For ongoing support in how to sidestep these intimacy death traps, be sure to check out the Passionate Marriage Club here --> https://monicatanner.com/club

Have you ever wondered what it's like to trade in the hustle and bustle of city life for the compact serenity of an Airstream? Join me as I sit down with Caley Rose and Karl Walker, a Billboard charting singer-songwriter and a user experience designer, who did just that. Embarking on a life less ordinary, they've navigated the highs and lows of transforming a trailer into a home, all while keeping their relationship thriving. Their story isn't just about shared space; it's about shared dreams, from music to design, and the delicate dance of supporting each other's creative ambitions without losing sight of family values.Caley and Karl open up about the intricacies of a partnership where career paths diverge—Kaylee's melodies filling venues and Carl's tech expertise shaping user interactions. How do they do it? By crafting their unique blend of support, understanding, and adaptability, they reveal the secret sauce to pursuing individual passions while maintaining a fulfilling

Today I'm serving up an episode that reveals how the team spirit of volleyball can spike the joy in your marriage. Imagine applying the same strategies that lead a volleyball team to victory to your own partnership; think encouragement, well-defined roles, and celebrating every win together. I'll share with you the secrets of a successful team—secrets that can transform your marriage into a partnership where gratitude is the net, acknowledgment is the ball, and positivity is the winning play.Full of puns and analogies from spending a weekend in a giant convention center in Las Vegas surrounded by hundreds of volleyball games going simultaneously, I had some strong thoughts of how elite teams work together towards victory and how this applies to marriage.I'm also thrilled to introduce the Passionate Marriage Club, an exclusive membership designed to help couples like you strengthen their bond and actively work towards their very own happily ever after. Become part of a community that believes in

Could your marriage become stronger if you considered divorce as a viable option? Today, I'm chatting with relationship coach Sharon Pope, as we uncover the paradoxical notion that acknowledging the possibility of divorce can actually reinforce a marriage. We delve into the power of choice and how it can lead to a more intentional and fulfilling partnership. Throughout our conversation, we emphasize the importance of setting healthy boundaries and reveal why trying to control our partner's commitment often backfires, leaving a trail of unhappiness and discontent.As societal roles evolve, so do the dynamics within a marriage. Sharon and I discuss the new terrain of gender expectations and responsibilities, dissecting how modern marriages are adapting—or struggling—to keep pace. We cast light on the silent signals that a relationship may be veering off course and stress the urgency of addressing issues promptly. Whether it's cultivating a space for open dialogue or recognizing when it's time

How many times have you said something like, we'll work on our marriage when... the kids get a little older, our business is more successful or we have more money/time? I'm here to share why this approach may cost you more than you think. This heartfelt episode peels back the layers on the myth that there's a "right time" to focus on your spouse and kids, revealing how this mindset can lead to emotional disconnection and even conflict. I'm offering practical strategies to ensure your marriage thrives no matter what stage of child-rearing, business or financial stability you are in.  Discover how to intertwine a relationship-first philosophy into your busy schedule, avoiding the pitfalls that many ambitious parents or entrepreneurs fall into.It's all about action – realigning your daily priorities to put your marriage and family front and center.  We'll talk about gratitude practices, the magic of date nights, and the irreplaceable value of quality time with your family.

Unlock the secret ingredients to a lasting and loving relationship with Dr. Sara Nassarzadeh's profound insights. In this episode, we explore the six foundational elements that she believes are crucial for a flourishing partnership. From the allure of mutual attraction to the depth of shared vision, our conversation navigates the intricate dance of love, compassion, and daily loving behaviors. Dr. Sara's groundbreaking perspectives, as presented in her book "Love by Design," challenge the conventional molds, emphasizing how individuality and unity can coexist in a harmonious balance.At the heart of our discussion lies the transformative power of compassion and the art of empathy in navigating the sometimes tumultuous journey of togetherness. We address the challenges and triumphs of being present for our partners in times of misunderstanding, drawing upon personal experiences and the wisdom of relationship experts like Gottman. By tuning in, you'll grasp how the small, consistent acts

Do you ever feel like you're juggling too many hats, trying to be the perfect businessperson, parent, and romantic partner all at once? In this episode, I'm unpacking the art of transitioning between the demands of work, the responsibilities of parenting, and the pleasures of romance with your partner. We explore the nuances of adapting to each role without losing your sense of self or the spark in your relationship.I'm going to give you insight into a  woman's mind, filled with endless 'mental tabs' that can sometimes hinder intimacy. I'll share my top strategies for closing those tabs, setting boundaries, and creating sacred spaces that signal it's time to shift into lover mode. Plus, you won't want to miss the details on my upcoming "Seduce Your Spouse Challenge," a three-day challenge designed to fan the flames of passion in your marriage.  Register here --> https://monicatanner.com/sysliveWhether you're looking to enhance your connection or s

Ever found yourself let down after a holiday or special occasion? You're not alone. In this epsiode, I'm chatting with my friends Greg and Rachel Denning of Extraordinary Family Life. Together, we confront the perils of high expectations that holidays like Valentine's Day and anniversaries can bring. We talk about how communication acts as the cornerstone of a thriving relationship. We share personal stories to illustrate the power of planning and mutual effort in nurturing the bond between partners. It's about creating joy together and, perhaps more importantly, managing it so the mental load doesn't diminish the happiness you deserve.Lastly, we delve into the concept of 'relationship bank accounts,' emphasizing the significance of individual wholeness in marriage.  I share insights from my coaching experiences that can transform not just your relationship but also model a healthy, thriving partnership for your children. Check out this interview that promises to inject new

Ready to reshape your view on Valentine's Day and turn it into a day you both actually enjoy? Let's stop dropping hints and creating resentment from unmet expectations with some honest, heart-to-heart communication. This episode is all about replacing those last-minute scrambles with meaningful traditions and understanding. I'll walk you through the exact steps to engage in those crucial conversations with your sweetheart—setting the stage for clarity and connection, not just on February 14th but for every celebration your calendar holds.This week is about recognizing each other's efforts, celebrating progress, and infusing every occasion with genuine gratitude. And, for those looking for that perfect Valentine's gesture, why not make a pledge to regular, weekly date nights and documenting your love story with the Date Night Journal. Get yours before Valentine's Day by ordering before February 10th using this link --> https://monicatanner.com/journal

Have you ever wondered about the secret ingredients that make a partner irresistible?In this week's episode, I'm interviewing Kimberly Holmes, CEO of Marriage Helper International, who shares not only her professional expertise but also her personal story.  You'll hear how Kimberly's family history of divorce and reconciliation sets the stage for the transformative work she's passionate about and what she's doing next.Kimberly gives us the four crucial areas of attraction through her PIES framework and she breaks them all down.P - Physical AttractionI - Intellectual AttractionE - Emotional AttractionS - Spiritual AttractionMake sure you join us for this episode and take the Intimacy Quiz at the end if you haven't already --> https://monicatanner.com/quiz

Ever found yourself caught in a tangle of misunderstandings with your partner, where every comment feels like a dig? I'm pulling back the curtain on the silent saboteur known as negative sentiment override. Learn how this mental habit can erode the very foundations of our relationships and some strategies to overcome it. We'll talk about the art of positive sentiment override, where the benefit of the doubt becomes a bridge to better communication and conflict resolution, using Dr. John Gottman's golden positivity ratio.Be sure to tune in transformative anecdotes and strategies, all designed to keep the flame of romance alive, turning everyday interactions with your Sweetheart into an ongoing honeymoon. As my gift to you for listening, download a copy of my 75 ways to show gratitude for your spouse at: www.monicatanner.com/gratitude

In this episode, I'm thrilled to introduce life coach, Julie Balkman, as we chat about the secrets of long-lasting love and romance.Join us as we discuss cultivating a love that endures through the years. We cover the importance of choosing a partner who values introspection and personal growth and moving beyond the superficiality of the dating scene to foster authentic, meaningful connections. This conversation isn't just about finding love; it's about nurturing it from the early stages of a relationship all the way to the golden years of marriage.We also explore the concept of a 'love tank' and how self-sufficiency plays a crucial role in relationship fulfillment. We talk about drawing happiness from various sources, like nature's beauty or a spiritual connection, especially during challenging times such as navigating a divorce. This episode is a guide to becoming a source of love, enriching not only your life but also that of your partner.But there's more! We share innova