Divorce Conversations For Women

In this episode Rhonda talks to Paula Rauenbuehler, an International Coaching Federation Certified Associate Coach, about Emotional intelligence. Paula shared about emotional intelligence assessment, self-awareness, mindset and dealing with emotions in a stressful situation, such as divorce. Emotional intelligence assessment is behavioral in nature – it is about where are you right now, where do you want to go, and what behaviors are needed in order for you to get there. Here are some of her recommendations: Self-awareness is about finding out what is behind the emotion, what caused the reaction. Take time to see what’s really going on. Any life changing experience is emotional and stressful. When in stress, we are in fear-based mindset. Ask yourself – what else might be going on here. It is important for people to use the mindset and awareness to make some decisions and do some discerning of who are they now and who they want to be after all of this. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today

In this episode Rhonda talks to Vicki Vollweiler, the Founder of College Financial Prep, about plans and strategies on saving money on the cost of college when parents are separated or divorced. According to Vicki, it is possible to save money on the cost of college, but it takes some planning and strategizing. She talks about developing a college list, merit and need based scholarships, filling financial aid forms, filling appeals due to separation and divorce, custodial parents, and student loans. Vicki recommends to start developing a college list by high school sophomore/junior year, and by the end of junior year to have a list of 30-40 schools to research. Lot of information about that can be found online, but it is also important to go to college fairs and to talk to the admissions representatives. Contact Information and Other Resources Vicki Vollweiler, Founder of College Financial Prep is a divorced mom of two children who understands the financial complexities of sending a child to college. Her work

In this episode Rhonda talks to Shannon Vick, Personal Trainer and the Owner of Iron Fist Fitness, about fitness and taking care of your body in order to stay healthy and ready for the challenges throughout the stressful period of divorce. Shannon points out that working out and taking care of your body is no longer an option, it is an absolute must, just like eating, drinking water or taking a shower. His recommendations for women are: Find your reason and find out your why – Figure out what you want to do and why you want to do it, and put together a plan that will take you to your goal. Focus on your inner being, focus on doing the things that you want to improve. Take small steps. Focus on a new day, on what you can accomplish on that day – take each day at the time. Shannon gave few tips on how to stay healthy, especially in a stressful period, such as divorce: First thing in the morning - drink water, to upstart your metabolism, Take proteins to maintain your muscles, Take multivitamins to have enoug

In this episode Rhonda talks to Chidima Anusiem, a Best Selling Author and a Divorce Coach, about abusive relationships and how to find true freedom and joy. Chidima shares several tips to get through a divorce You have to know you’ve made the best decision for yourself and your family Stand up for yourself and make your own opinion about yourself Lean into your pain. You’ll find some jewels there. You don’t deserve to be abused. You’re already everything you want to be. Just know you’re originally who you are, and you’re beautiful that way - a diamond in the rough. Maybe you don’t see it right away, but diamond is formed under pressure. Make the best out of a bad situation because divorce is an opportunity for self discovery and loving yourself. Loving yourself is one of the greatest things you could do. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Chidima Anusiem, a Divorce Coach and CEO of Change Heal Inspire (C.H.I.) LLC. And a Best Selling Author. She leverages her 15 years of leadership

In this episode Rhonda talks to Cyrina Talbott, the Owner of The Mindset Transformation Company, about improving the mindset when it comes to false beliefs around money. Cyrina recommends to let go of false beliefs like: Man make the money, women don’t Money is available for other people, but not for me Money is evil Money is a big deal. It reflects our values, status, comfort, and our security. Don’t let these false beliefs stop you from the actions you need to take. What’s the best for me, my future, and my kids? Ask these questions and be “bitchy” about it if needed - regardless of how it affects your ex. Doing what’s right for you is your responsibility, but it’s not your responsibility how it affects other people. If our #1 priority is making everybody happy, it’s not going to be good for us. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Cyrina Talbott, a Rapid Transformational Therapist, getting to the root of issues that hold people back and helping them get their life back. Her journey

In this episode Rhonda talks to Lisa Zeiderman, a Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP. They are discussing some of the less obvious financial issues you should consider when looking at your and your spouse’s financial assets in a divorce. Key takeaways from this conversations are: Staying on course through the litigation process is important. Divorce process is a marathon. Aim for the long run, and make sure to get to the end that works for you and your children. What you say to your therapist is not necessarily private during the child custody dispute. Marriage is a financial partnership, and it should be viewed as such during a divorce. Your job for the next year is to actually engage into divorce. Get all the information necessary to make the proper decision - it is crucial. Focus on taxes and tax return documents. Sometimes the biggest financial pitfalls are with the tax issues that people usually don’t consider. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Lisa Zeiderman, , a Managi

On this episode Rhonda talks to Elise Buie, an Attorney/Guardian ad Litem at Elise Buie Family Law group. Elise shares her story how she overcame obstacles, so the listeners could not only just get through, but to thrive through their divorce. Elise shares advice to women going through a divorce: Don’t be afraid to “dig under the rug” and look at your finances Find an emotionally intelligent attorney who can see your potential You are so much more capable than you allow yourself to believe Elise is empowering and reassuring women that they are capable of thriving after divorce, in every single way: personally, professionally, mentally, and financially. Divorce is a story of adversity, and her strength is helping people find and call upon their strength in times of adversity to transform themselves and their lives into something better. Contact Information and Other Resources Our Guest today was Elise Buie, Founder of Elise Buie Family Law Group, PLLC, a Family Law Attorney, Guardian ad Litem. She’s a passio

In this episode Rhonda talks to Consuela Muñoz, CEO & Founder of Own Your Confidence, about identifying your strengths, so you could see them in action a lot more often. Taking the assessment can give you a boost to your confidence, and using your strengths with purpose can turn the volume down on the self-doubt. Also, it helps you focusing on the things you’re good at, so you can practice and get great at them over time. Consuela shares some advice to women contemplating or going through a divorce: Every event in your life is an opportunity Divorce journey is a great opportunity for women to get reconnected with who they are Once you identify your strengths, you’ll see them in action a lot more often Gallop Poll Strength Finder: The Strengths Finder assessment tool helps identify the areas where you have the greatest potential for building strength. It measures recurring patterns of thought, feeling, and behavior. Reading your strengths talents in black and white is powerful at confirming what you alre

In this episode, Rhonda talks to Marco Munoz, Co-Founder of DComply, about making your post-divorce life simpler with an amazing tool that provides a better process for working with an ex on shared parenting expenses. Marco recommends: To have a process when it comes to finances Stay out of court The biggest challenge around variable expenses is communication followed by administration. DComply App will help you with both of those challenges so you can avoid paying more for expenses than you should. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Marco Munoz, Co-Founder of DComply. Marco is a divorced father that ended his marriage in 2005. From 2011-2016, Marco and his ex-wife relitigated his divorce over “phantom expenses” that his former claimed in order to dramatically increase child support. The experience taught him that family courts are ill equipped to adjudicate these decisions. Divorced parents bring their own stories to court and judges don’t have the time or tools to sort through the

In this episode, Rhonda talks to Seth Nelson, a Managing Partner of Nelson Koster Family Law, about knowing the questions to ask regarding parenting and financial issues women are facing during divorce. A message from Seth to women going through divorce: Breathe - as easy as it sounds, remember to breathe. Realize that this is a legal process and you’re going to get through it Live your life, not your divorce Focus on what you’re getting instead of what you’re losing PEACE stands for:         P - Parenting         E - Equitable distribution         A - Alimony         C - Child Support         E - Everything else Preparing on time and asking the right questions makes divorce process much faster. PEACE provides the subject matter of those questions. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Seth Nelson, a Managing Partner of Nelson Koster Family Law and Mediation. Seth has been practicing law for over 20 years and have focused exclusively on Family Law for over a dozen years. He has been ve

On this episode Rhonda talks to Elizabeth Ann Atkins, a best-selling author, actress, TV host and award-winning journalist. Elizabeth shares her terrible divorce story and how she endured through vicious verbal abuse, to finally forgive herself and her ex, and find peace after 16 years of conflict for the sake of their son. Elizabeth’s message to other women going through a divorce focuses on: Forgiveness Living bigger, better and bolder Find your inner Goddess Use your divorce experience to create the best version of yourself Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Elizabeth Ann Atkins, Emmy award nominated TV host, Bestselling Author and CEO of Two Sisters Writing & Publishing. Her new book is Boss Up, Goddess: Start Living Your F*ing Potential, and she has a YouTube show exploring the contents of the book that aim to empower women. She writes and publishes books and cohosts an Emmy-nominated TV show that focuses on mental health. In her career she has written more than 30 books. E

On this episode, Rhonda talks to Ashley E. Lillesand, a Managing Partner at Lillesand Law LLC, about estate planning women should do right after a divorce. Ashley shares tips on how to get through a divorce and estate planning: It gets better The guardian and money handler for the children can be, but they don’t need to be one and the same person Do not be scared of the process Estate Planning Basics:         - Writing a Will         - Naming Beneficiaries & Guardians         - Financial Power of Attorney         - Health Care Power of Attorney         - Living Will         - Trusts Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Ashley E. Lillesand, a Managing Partner at Lillesand Law LLC. She focuses her practice on Medicaid Planning, Estate & Trust Administration, Guardianship and Probate. Additionally, she receives appointments as a Guardian ad Litem in Milwaukee County for Guardianship and Probate cases. She is a member of the Milwaukee Bar Association and the State Bar of Wisconsin

In this episode, Rhonda welcomes Laura Mael, Director of Talent and People Development at Pareto’s Talent, about the DISC assessment as a tool for determining personality styles. Laura shares several tips on better communication: It will be ok. You will get through this. The most important thing is to be aware of during this time is how you are communicating. Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. Communication is all about energy and the amount of energy it takes to communicate is enormous. DISC stands for:         D - Dominance         I  - Influence         S - Steady         C - Correctness Understanding DISC allows you to determine your personality styles and personality styles of those around you so you could: Understand how people are different Develop confident self-awareness Modify your behavior based on the other person’s style Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Laura Mael, Director of Talent and People Development at Pare

In this episode, Rhonda sits down to talk with Candy Leigh, the owner of Candy Leigh Coaching about the journey to worthy. Candy shares 3 Key Takeaways to help women find their way back from divorce:  Reclaim your self-worth Declutter your space Take action by journaling Candy also gives a bonus tip about building a “team” around you to support you on your journey! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guests today was Candy Leigh, Owner of Candy Leigh Coaching, LLC; Author, Finding Life In Between; certified: mediator, coach, trainer, change management professional. In 2019 her entire world was thrown upside down when, after a massive spinal surgery, Candy was laid off from her corporate job of 20 years. As a divorced, single mom who carried health insurance, this created a significant jolt in her life. She spent a lot of time reflecting, and decided to write a book. Candy left on a road trip with the goal of talking to others to learn their journey, but instead, it forced her to spend massive time i

In this episode, Rhonda sits down to talk with Divorce Recovery Specialist Wendy Sterling with The Divorce Rehab about how you can make your divorce process the most empowering experience that you can go through! Wendy had some amazing tips to share, and here are just a few:  Don't try to navigate the process alone Be aware of your thoughts & take out the judgement Division of Assets Get your pen and paper together for this one! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guests today was Wendy Sterling, a Divorce Recovery Specialist who runs & founded The Divorce Rehab. Establishing her career as a top-level advertising sales executive in the digital space, at the world’s most progressive social and lifestyle website brands (such as Who What Wear and Refinery29), Wendy Sterling had it all… successful career, two beautiful children, and a (seemingly) devoted husband. But after enduring a traumatic and unexpected divorce, Wendy’s entire world was rocked to its core. And it was in that dark moment whe

In this episode, Rhonda sits down to talk with Family Law Attorney Russell Knight about what he thinks are the most important things to consider before filing for divorce.  He had some amazing tips and advice about filing for divorce, and some secrets to make things run smoothly. Here's a sneak peek with some of Russell's tips on what to consider when filing: Parenting time Child Support Alimony Division of Assets Get your pen and paper together for this one! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guests today was Russell Knight, a family law attorney with the Law Office of Russell D. Knight.  Russell Knight was born in Prince Albert, Saskatchewan, Canada. His family moved to the United States in 1991. Russell Knight attended Bradley University in Peoria, Illinois and graduated in 2000 with a Bachelor of Science in Business Computers Systems. After two years working as a computer programmer for a Fortune 50 company, Russell Knight decided that he’d rather work with people than machines and he enrolled

In this episode, Beth sits down to talk with Rhonda about navigating business and entrepreneurship while contemplating or going through divorce.  She had a lot of great advice for our listeners, but a few items that she mentioned are: Just take that step! Build your team (and surround yourself with them) Rely on your intention Have a plan Prepare to BE INSPIRED! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guests today was Beth Crowell, owner and founder of The Hippie Banker. Here is a bit about Beth, in her own words: "I have been through a divorce -- and have been able to remain friends with my ex-husband. It was a very healthy divorce and am so grateful for that. After coming out of my own divorce, it has always broken my heart hearing my friends (and sometimes acquaintances) share with me their unhappiness in their own marriages, but feeling stuck and unable to make a change. In fact, when I first left my job to become a life coach, I had intended to focus on helping women through divorce, but divine gui

In this episode, Rob shares some great tips regarding mortgages and debt during divorce, and what to think about during the process.  Some highlights: Get a good idea of what will transpire with your joint debt Refinance or sell your home so that your name is off the debt (if your ex-spouse is keeping the home) Get a copy of your credit reports (freecreditreport.com is a good place to start) Be prepared to take notes! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guests today was Mortgage Lender Rob Miller with ProVisor.  As a Senior Mortgage Officer at ProVisor, Rob has been serving the Madison area for over 18 years. He has focused his attention on providing his customers with an easy, painless loan process. Rob strives to not only complete your loan but make sure you are educated and informed throughout the entire loan process. One of his firm beliefs is handling each customer independently of the next, providing knowledge, accountability and “World Class Service”. Since buying a home is one of the most i

In this episode, James shares seven tips to getting through divorce, from finances to wellness. Some highlights: Make it about you Understand your rights Put your wellness first Find your support group Let go of the guilt Get organized Reach out Be prepared to take notes! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guests today was Family Attorney James Quigley of Beermann Law in Chicago, IL.  It was a competitive spirit and desire to make an impact in others lives that led James Quigley to pursue a career within law. After putting himself through college and law school, James worked tirelessly building his reputation within the industry and founding his own successful law practice before merging Quigley and Associates, PC with Beermann LLP in 2005. Now with over 27 years of experience, James set himself apart with his experience coupled with his focus on honesty and objectivity. He is extremely sensitive to each client's situation, especially the emotion and pain that typically accompanies a divorce. This 

In this episode, Michael shares some great ways to make co-parenting easy, including how you can accomplish this through the Fayr app. Fayr stands for: Family Advocacy is Your Responsibility.  Some highlights: It is IMPORTANT to stay organized throughout the divorce process; Fayr makes it easy to see who owes what with expenses, and helps balance things out;  You are able to "check in" with a date and time stamp at important locations - driven by GPS; You can use Fayr alone, or with your co-parent; Fayr will NEVER sell your user data - they understand the information that you share may be private Be prepared to take notes! Contact Information and Other Resources Our guests today was Michael Daniels, CEO of Fayr. Fayr was born out of two desires: to become a better co-parent, and to make the experience of co-parenting better. After his separation, Michael found it a constant challenge to be the best, most present father he could be. The time he wanted to spend focused on his children was instead taken up by