Divorce Conversations For Women

In this episode, Rhonda welcomes Amee Quiriconi. Amee is an advocate, business consultant, speaker, author, and the owner of Activity Girl, LLC. Amee has been divorced twice and has learned valuable lessons from each experience. According to Amee, divorce is emotional. We have to find space in our divorce process to breathe, to calm down, and to come back to the really hard decisions that we have to make when we are not amplified, and elevated, stressed down, and depressed. Here are some of her thoughts and recommendations: Support system is invaluable. It is hard to do this on your own, especially in a high-conflict situation. We have to figure out where can we get resources of people that are not in the swirl, in the perimeter of the hurricane, but are sitting safely and calmly in the middle. Divorce is hard. And if you haven’t done therapy or counseling for the duration of your divorce, I highly recommend finding somebody who can help you with that because divorce is triggering a lot of things in us. Pivo

In this episode, Rhonda welcomes Attorney Dan Exner, Family Law and Divorce Lawyer, and the Founder of Exner Legal, LLC. They talk about mediation. There are some misperceptions about mediation. Mediation is not an alternative to the divorce process. And mediator is not an attorney that’s there to advise people. Mediators are not supposed to give you any kind of direction - their role is either to find the middle ground or to figure out where there is none.  The one thing Dan wants you to know is: You need to be empowered with as much information as possible before you go down this path, whatever path you take. There are many good things you can learn from their conversation, and here are some of them: Internet is a great source of information. But be careful what you read online. Law changes from state to state, but procedures can change county by county, or even judge to judge. Even be careful who you are talking to because people can have completely different experiences than you. You are going to have to

In this episode, Rhonda welcomes Ilyssa Panitz, a Divorce Journalist and Columnist. According to Ilyssa, too many times women act on emotions, and then when faced with a barrage of questions about money, finances, marital residence, and expenses, they come up short by not having any of the answers. It is crucial, vital, and imperative that women do their homework before serving their husbands with divorce papers. Ilyssa’s message for you today is: You are going to be OK. You are going to land on your feet. You are going to survive and thrive. Here are some of her recommendations: Preparation is everything. Keep your emotions in check. It is a very big transaction and you have to treat it as such. You have to know your facts. Investigate, investigate, investigate. Set a new email address, your own bank account, get your own credit card, check your vehicle for a tracking device, get off your social media, do not put anything regarding your matter on social media, get Life360 app for your children… Put a team t

In this episode Rhonda welcomes Dr. Elizabeth Cohen, a clinical psychologist and the Divorce Doctor. She is the author of the book Light on the Other Side of Divorce. In this episode, Dr. Cohen shares about the trauma of divorce and healing from that trauma, and she gives some really good tips on how to process the anger. According to Dr. Elizabeth, your experience matters. And the only person you can change is you. Her message for you today is: You are immensely brave, you are immensely courageous, you are strong beyond measure. Here are some of her tips: Watch and notice the thoughts you use. And instead of saying: “My marriage is over, the relationship did not work”, consider saying: “My relationship came to its perfect conclusion. It gave me and my partner everything it was meant to, and now it is time to release it”. To process anger, allow your body to move through anger by listening to music. Do not talk smack about the other parent. You have the right to be angry, but your child should never be part

In this episode Rhonda introduces Rebecca Stern Kaufman, Founder of Pearl Mediation Group, LLC. Rebecca is a divorce mediator that specializes in working with families that have children with special needs, and she is also a special education advocate for those parents. According to Rebecca, whether you’re experiencing a divorce, separation, or you have a child with any kind of behavioral, developmental or educational issue, it’s a crisis, it is something you did not expect. In that moment of crisis, you’re not going to make the best decisions. You need a team of professionals, people who can help you to answer all those questions and teach you to ask the right questions. Rebecca’s message to you is: You are not alone, and we are going to build the team together that’s going to help give you all the information you need to move forward and in more empowered way. Here are some of her recommendations: Having the right team is important to provide you with right information. If you have a special needs child, y

In this episode Rhonda welcomes Jasmin Caviezel, Personal Trainer and Menstrual Cycle Coach. They talk about the four cycle phases and what happens during the phases with hormones and energy changes. Jasmin’s message for you today is: Listening to your body is always the best thing to do. Keep track your changes. Journaling is great way to start for anyone that is new to this. The My Flow App may help you track your cycle and gives you some useful tips. Here are some of Jasmin’s tips: Women in menopause still can feel those changes in their body happening. Those cycle changes are still applicable even though the hormones are declining. It is powerful to work out with your cycle. Getting to know your body and those changes you go through brings the awareness and understanding and more love for yourself. We need to take care of ourselves. We want to make sure that we prioritize ourselves and our wellbeing especially during challenging times. All the stress that come with it can impact our hormone system. Cont

In this episode Rhonda welcomes Kristin Belkofer, a mental health professional, and a Founder and Clinical Director of CLARA Healing Institute. They talk about the parenting aspect of the divorce process and therapeutic strategies for working with children. According to Kristin, if communication and healthy confrontation is a problem in marriage, it is going to be a problem in the coparenting relationship. Her message to you today is: This is just a chapter of not only your story but of your family’s story. And remember that kids are extremely resilient. Here are some of Kristin’s counsels: It is important for both parents to feel that they can have some space for transitioning and coping from stressful situations. Kids are resilient but they need support – the earlier, the better – even if it seems that the child handles it well. Because sometimes they don’t even know what to ask, or what to say. There are some great tools for families for better day-to-day communication, like Talking Parents, and My Family

In this episode Rhonda welcomes Jessica Coenen, Founder and CEO of La Belle Creative. Jess shares her story of being divorced twice, left almost homeless, without an income, and full of questions like: Who am I? And then starting over, answering those questions and building the new story for herself.    Here are some of her encouragements: This is you new life and fresh start. And that is scary as hell because you don’t know what’s around the corner.  What do you fantasize about? What are your biggest dreams?   Even if you have to go to work at Starbucks, or somewhere, be thinking about what your dreams are and you’re passionate about, and could you market that, could you sell that.  When new information enters the equation, you get to make different decisions. You can only start with where you are. We cannot forecast our future so we have to do what we can in the present with the information we have. And trust ourselves enough that when we have a new information, we are ready.  Contact Information and Ot

On this episode Rhonda welcomes Christine Bannister, a Courage Coach, mom of two, and a full-time Dispatch Supervisor for 911 center. Christine shares about her own experience of raising children as a single mom, building her career in emergency services, and PTSD as a result of being overloaded and not dealing with the trauma of divorce. Christine’s message for those who are going through divorce is: This is not the end of you. There is hope. As you progress, and move through the trauma, and start dealing with things, you continue to find yourself and discover who you are. Here are some of her thoughts: In all the moments when you feel exhausted and overwhelmed, and you feel like you can’t take care of yourself, stop everything you’re doing, and rest, or go for a walk, or choose a better food item that can nourish your body or your brain in a different way. Because ‘someday’ takes a really long time to get here. We all have trauma, but we just ignore it. It is really critical to know and understand that tra

In this episode Rhonda welcomes her friend Jessica Lucchesi  Moylan, health and wellness expert, a mom of three daughters and recently divorced after 25 years of marriage. Jessica shares her insight and encouragement with you, and her message for you today is: Tack your head, your heart and your gut in the alignment. According to Jessica, divorce is like a bad dream, but she’d rather be alone than lonely with somebody else. Here are some of Jessica’s suggestions for those women contemplating divorce: Start to journal – What do I want? What do I want out of life, what do I want in a relationship? It is a really personal decision. You have to choose your hard - because, it is going to be hard. There will be things you have to go through whether you stay or whether you leave. Keep your side of the street clean. And be absolutely resolute and sound in your decision. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Jessica Moylan, Wellness & fitness lover, make-up artist, leader and Arbonne consul

In this episode Rhonda talks to Lisa Mack, an independent senior sales director, and a Cadillac driver. Lisa shares about her experience when she was going through divorce after four years of marriage, starting her business and building credit ratings. For a long time, she found comfort in her favorite Bible verse from Jeremiah 29:11, and it proved true in her life. According to Lisa, the overall thing is: You can do it. You can make it through. You really can come through on the other side even better than you could’ve even imagine. Here are some of Lisa’s suggestions for women going through divorce: It may seem like the worst thing in the world. Take a minute at a time, if you cannot do a day or an hour. Anger and grief – It is too easy to cover it up with a band aid, but you have to get through it. Sit in it, and feel it and go through it (the hurt, the emotion….) before you can move on in a healthy way for yourself and your family. Talk to a trained professional. Hire a quality attorney who is well verse

In this special episode Rhonda welcomes her friend Leslie who shares her own experience with divorce.  ____________________ Our host of Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA® Rhonda Noordyk's relentless pursuit of financial justice for women going through divorce drove her to leave the financial industry in 2014 to open The Women's Financial Wellness Center. She was in search of a better way. She used her knowledge, passion, and experience to build a leading-edge business model. The intention was to create a business that provided a safe place for women - especially those in a vulnerable position - to find their paths, find their voices and find the financial confidence they need to lift themselves out of seemingly hopeless situations. Since starting the Women’s Financial Wellness Center, after a 10+ year career in the financial industry, she has helped alleviate financial vulnerability for thousands of women. In addition to being the CEO of The Women’s Financial Wellness Cente

In this special episode Rhonda welcomes Kim Reuf, the owner of TRUE Tax & Accounting. Rhonda and Kim discuss Tax concerns issues, such as the extended filing date, child tax credits, the filing married versus single, how to handle an uncooperative spouse and claiming Head of household. According to Kim, the key is to be educated. Contact Information Kim Rauf Website | LinkedIn | (608) 218-6547 kim@trueconsultingllc.net ____________________ Our host of Divorce Conversations for Women Podcast is Rhonda Noordyk, CFEI, CDFA® Rhonda Noordyk's relentless pursuit of financial justice for women going through divorce drove her to leave the financial industry in 2014 to open The Women's Financial Wellness Center. She was in search of a better way. She used her knowledge, passion, and experience to build a leading-edge business model. The intention was to create a business that provided a safe place for women - especially those in a vulnerable position - to find their paths, find their voices and find the financial

In this episode Rhonda welcomes Stephanie Shaw, the founder of Leigh & Ollie. Stephanie is a health and wellness coach and a Certified Holistic Nutritionist and Nutrition Strategist. According to Stephanie, you need to look at the bigger picture, not just how to lose weight.  Here are some of her tips: Meal prepping – make sure that your metabolism maintains consistency throughout the day and that you are getting good carbohydrates, fats, protein. You want to make sure that you’re eating that balanced diet.   If you look at your cycle, the four different phases of your cycle, each of them will tell you when you should be making certain decisions.  Put your oxygen mask first – if you don’t take care of yourself, then you can’t take care of your children, of your finances or your career.  Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Stephanie Shaw. Stephanie Shaw is the founder of Leigh & Ollie.  She took the strategies she implemented to recover from a two-year illness and turned it in

In this episode Rhonda welcomes Barbara Huson. Barbara is the leading authority on women, wealth and power. Barbara shares several tips on how to change our mindset and deal with that resistance that keeps us from making that change. The ideal way to work with resistance is to explore it – to ask yourself some really deep questions and think it through: what am I afraid of; why am I afraid…. When you look at your resistance and you explore it, it is amazing what happens. It’s quite simple to rewire for wealth. It’s only three steps: recognize your negative, unhealthy, or unwanted thought; reframe it, and respond differently. It is not about the money. It’s who you have to become in order to attract, to sustain and to grow your wealth. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Barbara Huson (previously known as Barbara Stanny). She is the leading authority on women, wealth and power. As a bestselling author, teacher & wealth coach, Barbara has helped millions take charge of their financ

In this episode Rhonda welcomes her friend and a fellow podcaster Kimberly Warner. Kimberly shares about her experience of going through divorce after 19 years of marriage, dealing with attorneys and the importance of asking the right questions, even if your process is amicable. Here are some of Kimberly’s thoughts on the subject: It does take time, and I think you have to do something for yourself. Pick up a new hobby, or a new habit, or something that you really want to do to start healing. You have to be authentic and honest with yourself and know that you deserve more – and be strong enough to ask the questions and to say what you want. Figure out who your tribe is, the people that can support you, and stand there and hold your hand through it. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Kimberly Warner. Kimberly has a podcast called Fearlessly Authentique. She is also a boutique owner, and also owns a candle factory. Here’s how Kimberly describes herself: I’m a mom to two wonderful chil

On this episode Rhonda introduces Nathan Astle, the founder of Relational Money LLC. Rhonda and Nathan talk about financial therapy, the goal of which is to change the way people think, feel, and behave with money. Through several examples and exercises, Nathan shares where and how financial therapy can make that change and increase the person’s wellbeing. According to Nathan, money is emotional. If financial wellness is difficult for you in the process of a divorce there are reasons behind it, and it can be a lot of different things, like your family, or your relationship with your ex-partner. Here are some of his advices: As much as possible give yourself space and allow yourself room for growth and improvement. There are tools and baby steps you can take along the way. As you are learning more about different financial choices you have, learn to, as much as you can, acknowledge and to regulate your own emotions Try to be open and to see a couple of different types of therapists if the first one is not set

On this episode Rhonda talks to Dera Johnsen-Tracy, an Estate Planning Attorney and a partner at Horn & Johnsen SC. Dera law firm, about the importance of Estate planning. Dera’s message for us today is: Getting started on your Estate plan, or even getting a plan in place, gives you a sense of control. You can decide, even if your divorce is not final yet, who is going to make financial decisions for you if you cannot do that for yourself; your healthcare decisions; who is going to plan your funeral… Here are some of Dera’s recommendations: Staff happens. For your own peace of mind, and for those who you leave behind, it is much better to make sure you have a plan in place. You have to make sure your divorce attorney and your estate planning attorney are working together to make sure that you will have the authority to take care of things the way that you want. Take back your power. The best way to do it is to get started, take control of your own assets, take control of your own decisions; it really doe

On this episode Rhonda talks to Rachel O’Connell, founder and CEO of Pinnacle Parent and Divorced Family Coach about the choices that make a difference in life and parenting. Rachel’s message today for our listeners is: You will get through it; you are going to be OK, and you will probably be better than you could even imagine. Here are some of her recommendations: Accept and own the choices you have made, and you’ll be able to grow and move through them and make different choices in the future. Everything starts with the parents. We have to address what’s going on internally. We have to get in touch with our authentic self. Accountability, support and a safe space are important for you as well as for your children. Create the space in your home where your children are experiencing the safety of being able to have conversations with their parent. Heal stands for: H – honoring the space and the place you’re in E – expanding yourself A – affirming your new identity L – live Healing is important. Choose to hon

In this episode Rhonda talks to Jason Jendrach, a CPA and owner of Jendrach Dobogai Lindseth inc., about the importance of having right information regarding finances, especially while going through divorce. Our guest shared some important information about debts, bad tax issues, MSA, innocent spouse, how to get copies from IRS, tax refund splitting, tax table changes and business valuation. Here are some of his recommendations: Do not be afraid to ask questions. Do not hesitate and reach out, it is to your benefit. The more planning and the more you can put in on the front end the better off things are going to be at the back end. With right data you’ll be able to make right decisions. Contact Information and Other Resources Our guest today was Jason Jendrach, CPA at Jendrach Accounting & Professional Services LLC. Jason has years of valuable experience as an IRS registered tax preparer, and he assists taxpayers and small businesses with taxes. Website | Facebook | LinkedIn | Email  __________________