Divorce Conversations For Women

What is your cash flow going to look like post-divorce? This is a common question that most women going through divorce have. Whether you are going back into the workforce or if you need/want to make changes in your career, Kathryn Sollman of 9 Lives for Women discusses the 6 different types of flexwork that can better blend your professional and family life. You have many options to work. You can define what success is. You have a voice in what you want to be doing in your next chapter. The six different types of flexwork are: Professional full-time – today these can be flexible in terms of where you work and what your schedule is Flexible part-time – you can also work in a more mid-to-senior level in a professional way Telecommuting – working from home or even a co-working space Job Shares – less frequent than other options but are still growing, you share a job with someone who has complementary skills and together you share the responsibility of one full-time employee Freelance – independent work, on you

You all know that inner voice that tells you that you are not good enough in one way or another. That voice that is inside your head that is constantly beating you up that makes you feel guilty, less than, and underperforming all the time. It is like having a really bad roommate. In this episode, Dr. Diane Garrison, a licensed psychologist and a women’s empowerment coach, discusses how we first need to recognize that we internally talk to ourselves in a mean girl manner, then finding the understanding that you are not flawed. This type of thinking is something that was programmed into you when you were a kid. Society has led women to believe that they need to work harder and longer in order to prove that they have even half the value of men. Women have been taught that feelings are weaknesses and therefore are taught to be cast aside in order to get things done.   Giving yourself compassion when you are hurting is a skill that can be learned. “It is a part of me but it doesn’t have to run me.” The center of t

In this episode, Pam reminds you to live your life on purpose and to not be driven by the circumstance in your life but remember that those circumstances are your hinge points in order to get to your purpose. It is part of your journey. If you know what your purpose is, it is easier to get through the circumstances. You need to take the emotion out of decision making and part of that is allowing yourself to let go of the physical things that may hold sentimental value. Things that you just place on a shelf but are not going to use. Pam tells us a great way to hold on to these emotional keepsakes without carrying the baggage with you. When going through a major life change, we tend to hold onto the guilt that is associated with it, remember that it is a fresh start. Move forward and let go of the rest. When we are going through changes in our lives, part of the process is knowing who we actually are. Who we are and how we show up today is going to affect the person that we will ultimately be in the future. Tak

“I was suffering in my marriage and I believe my partner was too. However, when I would talk about leaving, it was so scary to imagine what life would look like in the future.” Have you had a partner that would make you feel like you would not be able to financially support yourself and/or your kids if you left them? “I never imagined when I got married that it would end in divorce.”  You just don’t know what your future will look like and having the facts helps you make decisions for your future. Finding happiness in the core of who you are, allowing yourself to grieve through the process, and allowing yourself to find joy and a healthy mindset will pave the way to building your confidence. Women are good at making decisions if they have all the facts. Sometimes we feel it must be so terrible that we have no other option before we leave, but that is not always the case. We have choices. In this episode, Julie talks about her journey of making the tough decisions in order to take back control in her life. By

As an adult woman, we are kind and clueless. Clueless in understanding the boys and men in general. Often we wonder why they bottle up their emotions and avoid eye contact. But when we try to understand how males prefer to communicate, that allows us to adjust our expectations. Boy expert Janet Allison is a former teacher and a mother of girls. She founded Boys Alive, an organization that advocates for boys. Teaching parents how males and females learn, interact, and interpret the world differently. She wrote  Boys Alive! Bring Out Their Best and has collaborated with many international experts to create virtual educational summits, interviewing experts and sharing wisdom with thousands of parents and teachers. In this episode, you’ll learn more about men and boys. Why they act the way that they do and what can you do about it. Anger is a big topic of concern for parents of boys. Opt-in to claim a free audio report on Boys & Anger and how you can help him manage this big emotion! Claim here   In This Epis

So you finally realized that he left you. Now what? What's your game plan? How do you begin when there are so many obstacles to overcome? Jenna Whitehead is an everyday woman. She’s a Realtor in the area of Dallas, who unexpectedly was hit with a divorce. Her husband has become a person she doesn’t recognize anymore. Her experience led her to write a book entitled “He Actually Left Now What?” designed to heal women from the pain of divorce. A book that helps you move on from your horrendous past with him. Listen on as she shares helpful advice to help you move past your divorce slump. Just because he left, doesn’t mean it’s over. For listeners who would like to receive a free copy of this ebook, please email jenna@jennawhitehead.com, using the subject line "Wellness Center Podcast"   In This Episode We Discuss: The knowledge that women aren't alone How social media groups played an important role in her healing journey Practical ways of healing through journaling Getting into the space of acceptance Putting

What does it take to truly succeed in life? How do you stand back up when you're experiencing something traumatic? Jennifer Leigh is a self-made entrepreneur, a mother of twins and an intuitive. She has a background in crisis management, serving as a consultant to companies, organizations, and people who’re going through a crisis. In this episode, Jennifer shares her story, from being on top of her game when she started her company to hitting rock bottom when she was going through a divorce. Amidst all the challenging things she has experienced, she learned to be more resilient, more resourceful. She learned to have more faith and belief that she will come out stronger after the storms of her life. In This Episode, We Discuss: Being resilient during tough times Resourcefulness and thinking outside the box Reshaping your life using your mind Women judging other women Compartmentalizing your feelings Love Languages Speaking words of affirmation to yourself as a form of self-care Recognizing the power of vulner

Divorce is an emotional roller coaster ride. If you’re in the early stages, you’re probably thinking about what to expect - How do you go from feeling small to feeling big and confident in a good way? Julie Rothamer Cruz, a woman who's currently going through the divorce process is here to share her story and help you create your puzzle piece and play it big again! She's a Health and Energy coach, and a Certifies Integrative Nutrition Health Coach who helps women and individuals with health transformations. As she rides the roller coaster of divorce for a second time, she wanted to help more women feel empowered as they go through and after their divorce. Visit https://www.schedulicity.com/scheduling/JHLQCR to schedule a free, 30-minute Empowered Woman consultation with Julie and get started in celebrating you as you create a new life vision for yourself.   In This Episode We Discuss: Divorce as a roller coaster ride The grief and support of the divorce process It's okay to say "I'm not fine" Creating your n

Divorce is painful but it doesn’t have to be a disaster. Societal standards hinder us from having a good divorce. People shy away from this notion because they think it’s uncommon. Having divorce doesn’t mean you’re happy to have it. It also doesn’t mean you’ve failed or you did something wrong, but what does a good divorce really mean? Dianne Mader is an attorney who has practiced divorce law in Wisconsin for more than 30 years. She has also mediated divorce cases for 25 years. Through the years of working with divorce clients, she’s gained deep compassion for women going through a divorce. Her commitment to making divorce a transformative experience for women led her to train as a certified life coach. Ever since then, she has used that opportunity to coach women before, during, and after their divorce. Dare to have a good divorce as you listen to today’s episode!   In This Episode We Discuss: Divorce as a future-focused planning process What a good divorce means The practice of affirmations Forgiveness. I

In the process of divorce, the most important part is the very beginning. If you’re planning to leave your spouse because it’s unfair, suffocating and toxic to stay in a relationship with him, then it’s time to plot out your exit strategy. Today, we have Kristie Dye who was married for 15 years until she got divorced. She’ll be sharing helpful tips and strategies to make sure you are prepared before you leave your partner. In This Episode We Discuss: Kristie Dye’s story with her narcissistic ex-husband How Kristie handled being in an abusive relationship Tips and strategies before you go through a divorce Strategic exit plan ideas Helping women understand their strength when children are involved Managing narcissistic behavior Abuse is far more than somebody hitting you Why Kristie choose to have divorce Being kind to yourself Don’t be afraid to ask for support Knowledge is power "Good parents give their children roots and wings" The best thing that you can do as a mother for your children is showing them h

When you lose touch with yourself, you lose yourself in the world. — Eckhart Tolle Have you ever been in a relationship where you felt powerless, you lose yourself in the process? Don’t do this, don’t do that. Rules keep adding up one after another. You’re not happy anymore. You want to break free and be you again. But how do you do that when you have children, bills, rents, and life, in general, to think about? In this episode, Liberty, a multipotentialite creative, maker, and an artist, shares her story on how she got out of a relationship where she didn’t feel safe to make her own decisions without repercussions. Now, she’s happier and more connected with herself as she makes art that gives people hope and inspiration. Fill yourself with the hope that better days will always come as you listen to her story in today’s episode! In This Episode We Discuss: Liberty’s married life story with her strict husband Women’s tolerance for pain How your identity is not tied to a person, object or even your career The

There is so much trepidation for a woman going through divorce alone. Half of the battle is getting the right people in the right place at the right time. It's hard to trust anyone (even your attorney) - and it gets tough when you don’t have the support of the ones you consider close to you. Nancy Towle is a licensed health insurance agent with HealthMarkets insurance agency. She helps individuals and families find the best plan for their budget, providing objective guidance and solutions. In this episode, Nancy shares her story about how she didn’t have anyone to run to during the days of her divorce. She was a victim, trapped in a relationship where she was made to feel useless. But despite all of the hardship, Nancy managed to get through it. She’s a great example of what it’s like to be on the other side. In This Episode We Discuss: Getting the right people to help you navigate through the divorce process The importance of having someone to support you in your battles Opportunities can arise even in unce

Science shows us that heartbreak and mourning have neurobiological evidence of stress similar to someone who's been tortured as a prisoner of war. In most studies, women have the highest rates of depression. To cope with pain, women adjust. But how do you heal through all the hurt that you've experienced? Monica Rodriguez is a licensed Mental Health Therapist and also the owner and founder of On Purpose Psyche. She is very passionate about helping people, fostering them to grow in their mental health. In this episode, Monica shares the importance of a story - the idea of telling ourselves stories to help us navigate our way through life. We like to project and personify unto other people. But know that you are writing your own story. How you re-write it in order to be happy and live your purpose is up to you. Monica is offering a FREE initial consult for listeners of Divorced Women Conversations Podcast. In This Episode We Discuss: Helpful advice and tips for women who are going through a divorce The importa

Shopping for a home is a huge and tough thing to do, especially when you’re a single mom or someone who’s going through divorce. You’re considering to buy a home but everything should still be within your budget range, arming yourself with knowledge over financial things  and having someone to simplify things for you is the best thing you do. Penny Charlson is a Mortgage Loan Expert and a Branch Manager. She has 12 years of experience as a real estate agent and have been in the mortgage business for more than 20 years. She’s experienced with many different loan programs including refinancing, purchasing, and other transactions with unique circumstances and special challenges. In this episode, Penny shares her knowledge about everything you need to know in the mortgage industry. She helps her clients by doing all the maths and educating them carefully to have a good understanding of the process, allowing them to make the best decisions. Special offer: Penny is offering $500 off of closing costs. In This Episod

Resilience is defined as the ability to bounce back after adversity. It’s like the pinnacle of mental health. Being able to endure and be resilient at the same time is a tough thing to do. The wonderful thing is, resilience can be taught. Jennifer Van Rossum is a licensed Psycho Therapist in private practice at Cornerstone Counseling. She provides therapy to both teens and adults. Offering resilience and mental strength training. In this episode, Jennifer talks about what it means to be really resilient. Her goal is to provide creative outlets to deepen personal awareness and growth that leads to a flourishing life. In This Episode, We Discuss: What it means to be resilient Inner strengths of compassion and mindfulness Having self-compassion and compassion Practical things people can do to develop that self-compassion skill? Loving kindness and meditation Boundaries When we build self-compassion, we're recognizing our own self-worth Resilience training plus mental strength lifehacks and Strategies Life is ha

When you’re in the midst of the divorce process, you’re probably considering to sell your home. And if you want to sell it quick, you got to let home staging come in. Susan Dakins is a Sales Specialist who’s also an Accredited Buyer Agents, a Residential Specialist, as well as Senior Real Estate Specialists. From analyzing the market data on how much your home is worth to preparing your home for staging, she helps spouses and individuals who are planning to sell their home. Not everything is going to be easy or simple. Stress is surely to come, but don’t lose hope and stay optimistic! There will always be a way. For the women going through divorce, you’ve got a lot on your plate and you want people on your side who’re experts in what they do and knows when to push and when to step back. Susan Dakins is offering a 1 hour consultation in preparing and staging your home for sale, timing the market and what to expect every step of the way.   In This Episode We Discuss: How to get your home ‘showroom’ ready What

Buying or selling a home is not an easy transaction but it could get smoother if you have someone to it for you. And having this resource could save you a lot of time, money, and energy. In this episode, Alyona shares how being a realtor allowed her to be in complete control of everything. Helping her achieve financial freedom, self-esteem, and good financial acumen. Alyona Caravella is a realtor at RE/MAX and has been in the real estate industry since 2009. Helping families and individuals buy or sell a home. She’s also an accredited buyer’s agent and an expert in real estate negotiation. She helps anybody from start to finish - from planning to getting the resources ahead of time so her clients can enjoy ease and take charge of their cash flow and finances.   In This Episode We Discuss: Alyona’s story on becoming a realtor Her experience being a landlord Tips for women who are planning to dive into the real estate industry Who you hire can make or break a business What is a Potential Rental Area? The pros

A lot of women struggle with juggling and balancing together their work and family especially when they’re going through a divorce. In order to cope with such situation, it’s really important to educate yourself on the rules, laws and guidelines in order to better navigate through an intimidating and complex process such as divorce. Lindsay Lloyd is an HR Consultant Veteran with 15 years of experience on her hands. She’s the owner of Leave Solutions, a company that provides FMLA services for companies when it comes to their employee leave admin without compromising the employee's experience. She’s very passionate about empowering women that are in the workplace. Providing them great tools to help them handle some of their work leave concerns. She does not only help companies but she also offers help and advice to people who have individual questions when it comes to FMLA.   In This Episode We Discuss: What is FMLA and hoe does it relate to Divorce? Requirements and qualification for an FMLA Leave The benefit

Today’s episode is a BONUS! Christmas is a few days away. It’s a great time where you get to reconnect with friends and love ones. But it can also cause you stress at the same time which shouldn’t be. Susan Pokorny is a wellness trainer with a focus on mind-body health. She’s the owner of Pure Home and Body, and the best-selling author of the book Two Inches of Wool. She’s also a certified yoga instructor since 2001 and is very passionate about trauma-sensitive yoga. In this episode, Susan is going to share some heart-centered meditation that is very helpful in dialing down your stress hormones that arises when you are under high-intensity stress. Give your mind and body a break today. Feel better and meditate. Share it with the people around you too, and you’ll feel better wherever you go. In This Episode We Discuss: Heart Meditation Breath patterns and Inhaling light, love, life, and joy How your body responds to stressors Focusing on positive thoughts that feeds happiness to your soul You have a choice w

One of the biggest financial decision you’ll be facing when you’re in the process of divorce is - what’s going to happen to your family home. Keep the house? Sell it? Buy a new one or rent? With the right information, women are amazing decision makers. The problem lies in getting the correct pieces of information. But what steps should you take in order to avoid mistakes and regrets later on? Josh Bucio is Mortgage Originator at Waterstone Bank with 15 years of experience in helping family and individuals with mortgages. He specializes in educating home buyers, providing them complete guidance from the beginning till the family is settled. He takes the time to understand your entire situation, in order to give you the best guidance possible when choosing a mortgage program. Having clarity and seeing the bigger picture from the beginning gives you peace and enough reason to get moving forward.   In This Episode We Discuss: The 5 Item Checklist How to calculate your debt income ratios Things you need to consid