Tuff Love With Robert Kandell

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The guest on today’s show is Ryan Black and he’s here to talk about talking to women, lowering your ego and improving all of your relationships. Ryan Black is the Chief Marketing Officer and Marketing Director of Sasha Dating Systems. He is UK’s highest paid Direct DayGame Coach, he has 6 years experience in the industry, is an alumni speaker of the 21 Convention and a co-founder of the Infinite Man Summit. Reading his bio, you might have some bias, as Rob did, stemming from what you know of the seduction community. Suspend your bias, listen to the story of how Ryan got to this position and you will be able to learn from his story and his wisdom.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This is episode 78, and it’s a very personal show today. This episode is about Rob’s thoughts and feelings about a new experience he’s having in his life and relationship. Tuff love has to be talking about the things that are uncomfortable to talk about. We are dynamic human beings and every time we don’t relay the truth and hold something inside that’s bugging us, it creates distance in relationships. This episode is about exactly that, and it’s so close to home that Rob knew he had to do this show. Rob’s relationship with Morgan is so good, and he likes to brag about it. But it’s also challenging because unlike in previous relationships, everything that arises between them has to be talked about. The current experience has to do with distraction and feeling ignored or abandoned. The storyline is that Rob was away for a business trip, and then when he got back the two kids got really sick over successive days. Add to this a birthday party and Morgan

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This is Episode 77 and the topic is introversion vs. extraversion, and the journey from point A to point B. Rob shares some of his own story, as well as research about the topic. Then Jo and her partner Elvis jump in to share some great insights around the differences for men and women around this topic. Rob was a really shy kid, and still considers himself shy when it comes down to it, but here he is doing a live show. To all the people who think they don’t know how to be in the world or handle their own shyness: you can do anything with what you perceive as a limitation. You can move from shyness into being connected in the world. If Rob can do it, you can do it. No more excuses! There is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert, because they would be in a lunatic asylum! It’s a spectrum, a continuum, and you fall somewhere along the line in the middle. You can move from one to another. There are skills and things you can do to migrate into m

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This episode has two very special guests, Erwan and Alicia Davon. One of his first teachers, Erwan Davon has been one of the most influential people in Rob’s life. Rob was a numb, dumb, chauvinistic, misogynistic yuppie on March 20th 1999. He sat in a room full of people, Erwan mirrored back parts of himself Rob couldn’t see, including the shadows, and he basically said the solid truth. One of the greatest gifts we can give people is mirroring back what we see with approval, with intention and not saving us from ourselves. Erwan just let Rob sit and that morphed him and changed him.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This is episode 75, and the topic is Dealing with Debt, which is something people have commented is important and very timely. Debt is something that everyone in the modern world has to deal with, and a big part of personal growth and expansion is the ability to consciously deal with your debt instead of letting it run you. In this episode Rob shares his lessons around debt, and then coaches Chantelle around her current situation with life and money.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. In this episode Rob interviews Trip Laneer from the New Man Podcast about getting out of your comfort zone. Trip has been coaching for 10 years. He has worked with men and women all around the world, but primarily works with men and especially with folks who want to do good work in the world. They want to make a great living doing good work in the world but there’s resistance and fear to get out of their professional comfort zone or level up to the next place for them.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. In this episode, Rob explores the concept of the prisons we create for ourselves, as well as how to escape. Remember, 99.9% of the time it is us creating the prisons. There is that 0.01% of other people doing stuff to us and creating prisons around us, but that isn’t what this show is about. It’s about the prisons we create and how we respond to them. This relates to Tuff Love episode 49, from November 2016, called The Lure of Freedom. That episode was about how freedom is so attractive and we think we want it, but at the time we don’t. If you haven’t listened to that show yet, go back and do so because it explores some different things to this episode.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Jeffrey Platts is the fun and well-dressed guest today and he’s here to share what not to say on a date! Jeffrey is a men’s coach and authentic communication expert who is passionate about helping men own and express their value with women, and the world. Rob is always touched by the way Jeffrey approves of men and what they’re going through in this disapproving world. Jeffrey and Rob have both heard a lot of complaints over the years from women who feel frustrated that guys are ambiguous when asking for a date. Instead of being upfront, they ask to ‘hang out’ or ‘get coffee’ or ‘go for a walk’. A lot of guys do this because it dilutes the fear of actually asking a woman out. If you hang out and there’s no chemistry, then it’s easy to say it wasn’t a date to begin with. Then, if there is chemistry, it’s a surprise bonus. While it may make sense from the perspective of not wanting to be rejected, Jeffrey warns that it isn’t the optimal way to approach it. If two p

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This is episode number 71: WTF is up with romance? In this episode, Robert discusses the concept of romance in the 21st Century. In 1997, David Deida wrote the book The Way Of The Superior Man and gave the reality of how things were becoming f****d up between men and women. He eased people’s souls in reassuring them they weren’t alone in what they were feeling. However, 20 years later things are even worse. If you Google “Millennial Dating” the first 5 articles suggest negative experiences.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Destin Gerek is here to talk about the concept of sexual self-mastery. Rob met Destin in 2005, and had the honor of working with him for about 5 months as he put on something called Evolve Live in January 2015 in Los Angeles. Rob has deep respect for Destin’s dedication to his craft and practice, his profound professionalism, caring and service. The vast majority of his work these days is with men, so while there is certainly overlap between men and women in the concept of sexual self-mastery, the majority of times Destin is speaking about the man’s experience.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This show is around the concept of fear and scarcity, which follows on from an episode from November last year called ‘One Unit of Fear’. This episode won’t duplicate that too much. We all have fear. We actually swim in an ocean of fear and scarcity. You might not even be aware that we live in a fear-based, scarcity-based society. It’s all we’ve ever known. Society is always saying ‘You’re doing it wrong, you’re not good enough and you’re not good looking.’ It actually takes an incredible amount of energy, courage, motivation and agency to move away from that. Rob is not immune to this, he experiences fear and has barbarians and phantoms in his mind just like everybody else. Even after 18 years of work on himself, the fear is still there, the fear of the flame, the fear of the haters. He still struggles with this every single day. However, it’s easier than it was 18 years ago and he likes himself a lot more, but there’s still a battle against society’s message. &n

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Saying the truth and generally trying to get some good nookie into the world. On the previous episode Rob talked about a man’s ego and it kicked his ass in a positive way. So when it came to doing a show about a woman’s ego, it scared the shit out of him. Even though Rob could tackle it in an entertaining and somewhat informative way, he felt it would be much more powerful to ask his friend Arielle Brown. Arielle is a coach who specifically helps people create the relationship that they truly want but have never experienced. Along with one-on-one coaching, she facilitates groups called Essential Intimacy, where a bunch of people gather together and play some different communication games that allow you to reveal your true essence. She helps people create authentic, real relationships that have meaning and substance and juice.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This show is about a very interesting topic and that is the concept of the male ego. To start off the show, Rob wants to remind everybody: we are bad asses! He is a very healthy male with a very healthy, large ego. Rob’s ego serves him and the universe well because he has worked on it. But he didn’t always have such a strong ego. Rob had a lot of negative viewpoints about himself growing up. An overweight kid with low self-esteem, he used a lot of techniques and tactics to look for external approval. There was always a chase to like himself. A lot of people live in this world where they don’t love themselves. If that’s you, then that’s something to look at and explore. To move around in this world in a healthy manner is extremely important. If you don’t have a strong ego, then you’re looking externally for validation. That’s where everything fucked up begins because on some level you’re looking for external sources to feel good about yourself.   Love the show?

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The guest on the show today is Deborah Kagan and she’s talking about the concept of mojo. Rob loves having experts on the show because they always help him learn something new. Deborah helps women conquer self-doubt and indecision to step into their full power, love who they are and live a turned on life. Although she primary serves women but the information is not gender specific. With the rise of feminism, women have lost touch with their mojo because it lives in our bodies as opposed to being up in their heads. Deborah got into this work from a complete disassociation from her mojo. She grew up in a house of domestic violence and her first sexual experience was rape. Disassociation from her body was what followed, as is common following trauma. She is here today to share that it is absolutely 100% possible to connect back to your mojo regardless of what you’ve gone through.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How »

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. The topic today is something Rob talks about a lot and that is communication. But even though it’s a topic that comes up in a lot of the other show topics, there has never been a show completely devoted to communication tips and tricks and techniques. In this episode, Rob shares his 8 favorite communication tips so you can take them and get working with them!   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome to another episode of Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This show is about how to set and keep goals. For some that is very easy, but for most it’s very challenging. On some level, that’s why the coaching business exists—to help people to set and achieve their goals. Rob has been pretty good at this his whole life, innately. However, from his thousands of conversations in workshops and one-on-one coaching he knows most people suck at it. They set goals and they think it’s really important, but all of a sudden they’re miles away from their goals.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. This episode is about betrayal, and about believing that a friend and business partner could turn their back. It’s also about all the feelings that arose around that situation for Rob. It’s been interesting and painful but the life lessons that have arisen for him have been truly amazing. Surely everyone listening and reading this can connect with that feeling of betrayal because it happens to all of us in small and large doses. There are big betrayals that are obvious and flagrant, and then there are small, baby betrayals that go on all the time. And all of them hurt. There’s no other way to put it: it hurts. It’s also a feeling of powerlessness, which is almost as angst-ful and negative a feeling as the actual stimuli of the betrayal itself.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome back to another episode of Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Rob is feeling an interesting piece around identify recently that is showing up in a lot of different ways.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome back to Tuff Love with Rob Kandell. Life continues to evolve as life keeps getting better, and Rob has been really thinking about the show. The topic of the show today is “attainable perfection.” The paradox of perfection is that you can use it to make your life and who you are in the world better and better. The most important piece of the message that Rob wants to get across is this: you can perfect and imperfect and everything in between at the same time, and it doesn’t stop you from making yourself better. It’s down to the concept of how you use excuses in your life—excuses like ‘I’m not perfect’—to slow down, whine and complain and stop making your life better.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Love LinkedIn

Welcome back to Tuff Love, with Rob Kandell. This show is on one of Rob’s favorite topics: how to flirt! This show is about being truthful and real, and if something happens that affects the show, Rob will talk about it. So a small caveat to this episode is that he is feeling a little down today due to a conversation about this very topic with Morgan. Rob has found that there are Perils of Flirting. One of which is that other people will be affected. Rob has an open, honest relationship with Morgan. The concept that Rob has talked about many times on the show is that withholding is lying. When you withhold information, you lie. So Rob has an agreement with Morgan to discuss the people he flirts with. Recently he started flirting with somebody and Morgan got triggered. Then her trigger hit Rob’s trigger.   Love the show? Subscribe, rate, review, and share! Here’s How » Join the Tuff Love Community today: robertkandell.com Tuff Love Facebook Tuff Love Instagram Tuff Love YouTube Tuff Lo