Things Worth Considering

When you hear the word - Stress, do you roll your eyes or pipe in That's me? In spite of years of research and evidence-based assertions as to the detrimental effects of stress most people turn a deaf ear and carry on with their until their body sends out signals that something is wrong. It is known that 70 to 90% of all visits to primary care physicians are for stress related illnesses. Physical, mental, emotional and spiritual are all possible targets of the stressors we encounter. Not all stress is bad as good stress propels us on to achieve our best but the bad stress can be fatal. We also know that stress is very individual. What one person experiences as stressful another person can swim right through it. Which leads us to an important place. Stress is all about perception. If I think something is stressful then it will be stressful. All told, our attitude, filters and what we learned stresses us out. Join us for a de-stressing chat on the next Things Worth Considering.

Do you start to feel uncomfortable, perhaps break out in a sweat when someone stands to close to you? Ever noticed how you instinctively find a way to step back and create space from that person who is standing to close? If you have, then you have some experience with boundaries. That imaginary distance we have around us establishes where i stop and you begin. The invisible line marking our space is quite variable for each person and there are those who have utter disregard for other peoples' space, no matter how much you squirm trying to pull back from their intrusion. Boundaries are how we teach people what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour for us. There are people who have rigid boundaries around, like meeting times can only be on these days, between this time and that time. The ideal however, is learning to have flexibility, to find common ground while both parties are honoured in a win-win situation. Boundaries - so much more than the white picket fence around the yard!

We all have them, most of us hate them and virtually none of us know how to navigate through them successfully. We refer to disagreements or arguments with our spouses, loved ones and even co-workers. Disagreements that can quickly spin out of control and hurt feelings or destroyed relationships ensue. We will give you tried and true approaches to how to behave and what not to say when you find yourself in such a situation. What not to say like calling someone inappropriate and hurtful names, making unsubstantiated accusations or digging up the past. Talking to everyone else about your problem except the person who needs to hear this. Getting people to voice an opinion about your problem and try to get them to join your 'I am Right' Alliance. More of these ideas will be revealed in this episode of Things Worth Considering. Getting to Yes isn't nearly as difficult as we are lead to believe.

The myths of romantic love inform us how women need to be rescued, forever the helpless victim and saved by none other than a heroic muscular man. In books, movies and fantasies this scenario ties us to gender biases and heteronormative stories. Yet historically and in parts of today's world, marriage has little to do with romance but arranged to acquire wealth, title and prestige. Any wonder we have difficulties with relationships and the expectations placed on what ideally is a spiritual connection but fraught with secular aspirations. As we are always in relationships of different kinds, we look at qualities like trust, respect and acceptance. We ponder the mystery of attraction. Who we are attracted to? Why often the same type. Using the Hendrick's Imago work, we see it starts with our parents and the unmet needs of our childhood. Still we attempt to meet those needs from similar people as our parents. Fascinating and disturbing! Join us on our journey to connect.

There is a kind of caretaking that is very different than child rearing. This is caretaking of others who are aging with us: a spouse, a parent, a friend, or a sibling. They may be experiencing a slow loss of independence, or a rapid decline resulting from health issues. Caregiving wasn’t considered important,it was another aspect of women’s family life. When middle class women en masse moved into the paid work force in the 50s and 60s, feminists recognized that women had 2 jobs – as a paid worker at their job AND as a caretaker at home.DOUBLE WORK-one paid, one is not. The expectations of a higher standard of living AND more women working means that grown daughters/and mothers of younger children are STRESSED out by the unlimited expectations, role conflict, and increased demands for better caretaking skills.The entire family is affected, Feelings of overwhelm, anger, resentment become pervasive. Join us for this episode about taking care of you with 7 Tips to Care for Aging Parents.

AGING – we think we know what it is precisely because we all do it. But sociologists and psychologists think of it a bit differently than who we usually think of it. This story is the new story of aging.Emerging in the early 1900s with the rise of developmental psychology, suddenly people started thinking of life in terms of stages. The end of WW2, the economy flourished and people lived longer, a new old age emerged.The extended families saw older people working, providing for their families even if only in the home. The nuclear family saw older people left on their own, and the wealthy were encouraged to ‘retire’. Retirement is new-made possible by longevity and wealth, today it is seen as a normal stage of aging. 10,000 people retire each day in America, Something that we will all do. or is it? Aging is a process. Age is a number and aging is an experience. Many factors determine how we age, and research shows there are ways age 60 can be the new age 40.

We all experience Consciousness every day, yet our culture is primarily focused on the Physical: material wealth, science & technology. Consciousness can be difficult to understand, because it is NOT physical, so we can’t see, hear, or touch it. Our culture is focused on the physical because it is easier to understand since we can see, hear, and touch it. Modern Physics reveals that Physical Reality is actually: Multi-Layered, Paradoxical, Mysterious, extends beyond our 5 senses, and extends beyond what we call “common sense”. The 7 Principles of the Affluent Soul are: Expand awareness, Identify as Multi-layered Consciousness, Feel Soul through the Heart, Empower through Choice, Express Authenticity, Appreciate with Gratitude and Love in Harmony. The 7 Principles of the Affluent Soul is an instruction manual for conducting efficient experiments that allows the reader to determine for themselves whether their own experiments provide useful benefits to their own lives.

Do you want to manifest your best possible life and highest potential? Abundance is a natural state for us to be in and is part of our divine right. We live surrounded by abundance but somehow does this bountiful world seem to elude your experience? From ancient times to the present, mystics, scholars and authors have been pondering and writing about how we co-create our reality with the Universe. The scientific discipline of quantum physics has shown that reality is malleable and that we shape our life with our mindset. Many best sellers have been based on the principles and the law of attraction. However, they did not incorporate how you could be blocking yourself from realizing this very abundance and therefore not receiving your desires. How do you release your blocks to having everything you desire in this lifetime? These ideas are definitely “things worth considering”

Previously we took a look at situations when events forced us into unplanned life changes. In this episode we want to explore how to plan for necessary changes. Rather than change being such an upsetting experience we will give you ideas that will give you more control over the events, have more choices and be actively involved and not a victim to our life events. These ideas are worth considering making life’s inevitable twists and turns easier to navigate. With the inevitability of change, we want you to have a plan that is easy to kick into action, an attitude of empowerment and a knowing that you will survive and this too shall pass. How do we know you can come through almost any event? There is an underlying technique to life that is so overlooked, it feels like a secret. We want you to learn this simple to understand but difficult to consistently do approach and it Is usable in all areas of life. Wondering what it is? Tune in Thursday because this is worth considering.

HAVE YOU EVER EXPERIENCED YOUR LIFE SEEMINGLY BLOW UP AS YOU STOOD THERE WONDERING WHAT JUST HAPPENED? YOU THOUGHT YOUR LIFE WAS GOING ALONG SO WELL, NO MAJOR TWISTS OR TURNS. YOU HAD EVERYTHING UNDER CONTROL, ALL YOUR DUCKS IN A ROW SO TO SPEAK, WHEN LIFE TURNED INTO A TRAIN WRECK. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. MOST PEOPLE HAVE CHANGE THRUST UPON THEM WITH NO CLUE THAT THE UNIVERSE HAD PLANS DIFFERENT FROM THEIR OWN. OVER TIME WE ARE LULLED INTO A MAKE-BELIEVE PLACE WHERE ALL IS WELL. THE STATUS QUO MAINTAINED BY OUR HABITUAL BRAIN’S TOOLS OF PROCRASTINATION, FANTASY, FALSE BELIEFS AND A DEFINITE DISLIKE FOR CHANGE. MOST PEOPLE DO NOT LIKE CHANGE, PERIOD. WE ARE INVESTED IN KEEPING THINGS JUST THE WAY THEY ARE BUT LURKING JUST BEYOND OUR AWARENESS IS THE HUMAN SPIRIT. OUR SPIRIT IS ON THIS PLANET FOR ONE REASON, TO GROW AND THAT MEANS CHANGING. EVERYTHING AROUND US GROWS, EVEN THE UNIVERSE IS CHANGING. WHAT CAN WE DO TO NOT BE BOWLED OVER BY SUDDEN CHANGE? TUNE IN TO FIND OUT SOME IDEAS!

We all tell lies to our self. Have you ever convinced yourself to buy something knowing you can't afford it? Have you ever done something as your thoughts are telling you not to? Noticed how you felt? When we do one thing and at the same time know we should not, it makes us very uncomfortable on our insides. This experience is called cognizant dissonance. The stress we feel when have 2 ideas or beliefs that oppose each other. Try making a decision? Or doing one thing and saying the opposite, very stressful! How is it we can lie to our self-one more dessert and start the diet in the morning, which we won't. This week we will be discussing the lies we tell our self and others about our bodies, finances, love and relationships, the damage lies do and how to stop lying. Do you have a story to tell about lies in your life, and what was the outcome? write us at info@spiritgrows.ca If we read your letter on air you will receive 3 one hour long Coaching sessions with one of our graduates.

Do you ever start off with a great idea only to have a barrage of negativity take over your thoughts and derail you? Do you chat with someone only to walk away and berate yourself for what you said? Our negative thoughts can be debilitating and paralyzing. At times we can go into a loop, going over and over the same negative dialogue. This episode looks at why we so negative at times, where does this Inner Critic come from including the neuroscience of why we are naturally negative thinkers. We will give you easy to use possibilities to lower the volume of that Critical voice and ways to move from beating yourself up, to finding life enhancing techniques that keep the smile on your face. Send any questions you have about this or other episodes to www.spiritgrows.ca, there are free coaching sessions up for grabs from the Transformational Arts College graduates.

The best defined plans can suddenly go sideways and horribly wrong. This episode of 'Things Worth Considering' looks at the fact things can and do go wrong. How we handle the unexpected can teach us about our strengths and our weaknesses. How do you handle these glitches? Do you handle them just like your parents do? Is it bad planning? Or is the Universe telling us something? We are here to guide you through the why's and how's so everyone goes through them intact. E-mail us of a time you met obstacles in your life, how you dealt with the situation and what did you learn from it. If we read your letter on the air during this broadcast you will receive 3 private sessions FREE with a Life Coach graduate of Transformational Arts College and you choose anything you would like to explore in your life in confidence, to clarify or even change it. You have to write us to receive this gift though. Your full name will not be used on the air. E-mail us at info@spiritgrows.ca

Have you ever had a problem but no solution? You thought about it, gathered the information to solve it, and still no solution? Frustrated, you walk away from your problem all together, maybe there is no solution. Most people when faced with problems resort to Historic Problem-Solving, repeating what we have always done before. But a couple of days later, you wake up, hit the shower, and not really thinking when suddenly the solution to your problem is there, in detail. You feel exhilarated, you have the answer. This is a Eureka moment, an Aha experience. We all have them, but we don’t seem to be able to request them on command. Why, not? Gord and Jan have some tried and true techniques to do to find solutions to problems. Answers can come to us easily without the stress we create when solutions are not forthcoming. The Aha experience is mysterious and yet magical that no one really knows how this experience happens.