Healing For Women

***Do What You Can*** Given all the time and energy constraints you have already... what is possible for you today? Everything can seem so urgent and overwhelming that you don't end up doing anything, which will only cause you more stress tomorrow. Do, do something. Do whatever you can. Do all you can. You'll pull through ;-) You always do :-)

***You Are A Reasonable Person*** You are fair. You are reasonable. You don't over react. You're not punishing. Your decisions are reasonable and based on your (sometimes unknown) responsibilities and self care. Others might mistake your self-nurturing as selfish because they want you to prioritise them over you prioritising your needs. Keep believing that you are right and just and reasonable.

***Re-establishing Order*** You know what happened. You were there. You are right. Now get back to the people and beings and projects that are important to you. Re-establish order in your space. Feel good, feel free and feel decided about where your energy is going... and keep going!

***Why Are They Difficult?*** Childhood is where most things begin. How we think and feel now have many of their origins in childhood. Inner growth work is what we do when we're adults. We investigate ourselves, our feelings and thoughts and eventually we get back to addressing our childhood pain. Most of us as children, did not get enough attention. Our parents were too concerned with themselves or they weren't there, amidst other less nurturing scenarios. We might have been told to feel grateful for what our family gave us and we might cling to positive memories because we want to believe our parents were good even though we felt our childhood was hard. Most people don't do any childhood healing work because it's too confronting. Painful times were never talked about or not allowed to be talked about. Most children, now grown up children, adults, seek attention. The less attention children receive, the more difficult an adult they generally become. This is not a straight up rule, we're all different. In

***Your Peace Is Yours*** Your peace and your energy and your mental space and your general physical space is yours. You don't have to share it with anybody who doesn't respect it. Enjoy your peace. Have it. Own it.

Daily Boost - Unseen Effort Nobody can see the massive amount of energy you put into making your life work and other people's/ being's lives work. This might be because nobody is there with you at the time because you're physically in a place where they aren't. You're doing a great job behind the scenes. Acknowledge it. It's great ! You're great!

***No Stone Left Unturned*** Help yourself acknowledge, accept and feel good that you have contributed, changed, communicated, put energy into making something better: with another being, with a situation. You have done so much. You have done well.

=Comfort Stew= Welcome to Benita's cooking show and today we're cooking Comfort Stew. I feel it's much more appropriate to call vegan food, comfort food, because you can feel "comfort"able eating it and you can feel "comfort"ed knowing that no being has been harmed for your meal. I'd like to make a statement for this recipe and also future meals I'll podcast: if you wonder why I'm not more exact with the ingredients or method or allowing the method to be optional, it's because I'm interested in making meals that are fast, don't have exact measurements and don't involve me following a detailed method. I'm not what I call a chef: I don't really care what the meal looks like, so long as it tastes good and so long as I can avoid shopping for extra special ingredients and spending copious time on complicated recipes. I can throw food together and I can make it taste yummy. If I can get it all done quickly, I'm on for it!  This recipe will suit you well if you're like me and you're not the tidiest person in t

=Express Feelings To Heal Sleep= I thoroughly know what it's like to lose sleep for days and months and years on end. It makes me tired just writing that! But seriously, if you're not having a good sleep every night, life during the day feels much harder.  Most people who have sleep problems wake between 1am and 6am. This excludes the alarm set for work and things like that. I'm talking about 'unnatural' wake times, like waking at 2am or 4.30am. Your body is on a clock. I'm not talking about the body clock that seems to get set because of the daily alarm and even on holidays you're automatically waking at 6.30am. I'm referring to the organs in your body having their peak time of functioning and they occur in two hour time blocks, eg. Liver time is between 1- 3am. The reason I'm talking about 'organ' time is because each organ is associated with certain emotions, eg. The emotions related to the liver are to do with anger and resentment. This can be a key for you to figure out why you're waking at certain t

Dream 1 Interpreted Energy, Spirits And Childhood Conditioning. It's much easier to exemplify dream interpretation by using one dream as a case study, rather than say, using a dream dictionary approach. This message about dreams is one in which I discuss everything necessary for a dream interpretation. I discuss what happened in the dream, what happened before the dream and how the interpretation of the dream applies to life with all the insights and answers it can offer.  As I worked through the following dream, I learnt a lot about myself: how energy works, how family conditioning plays out and I learnt more about the spirit world. All of this helped me feel at peace after the dream, which I would not have felt if I ignored the dream. If I had ignored the dream, I would have felt much like I did before I had the dream, which was pretty awful. What happened the day before the dream: Writing your dream in your dream diary is good, but you must also write up what happened before the dream, just a few lines

=Crystal At Your Heart= This message leads on from part 4 in this series on meditation. Part 4 explains the words I Am and adding those to the meditation, along with a focus on your heart and breathing in through your nose, out through your mouth. Those three parts is basically how to do this meditation. If you want to add extra healing energy to it, without 'doing' anything extra, get a crystal or gem stone. Hold the crystal at your heart or hang it on a pendant.The color and peace and healing power of the crystal will penetrate your heart centre and help remove negative energy stored there. Crystals lend extra awareness, like being illuminated. You can't work on a problem if you don't know there is one, so a crystal will help you realize what you need to work on in yourself. You can find crystals in crystal shops or spiritual type gift shops. They're often stored in little compartments and there's usually a huge array of different types. They're a cherry sized tumbled stone and normally cost between

“Family Appearances - Honestly peaceful or quietly festering?” This message is about being honest with yourself and others regarding how close your family is not. This message falls into the category of Inner Child Healing, because the dynamics of family members getting along or not, go back to childhood. Those people who have a close family or think they have a close family, can sometimes wear it like a badge and show off about it: “we get together every week (or however often); we always buy each other presents for special occasions; we always stay in touch and contact other family members who are going through a hard time”. They can make those people who don’t have a close family, feel like they’re inadequate or under pressure to act like their family is close as well, just to feel ‘normal’. What is probably more ‘normal’ is that most families are dysfunctional and therefore most families are not close. It’s healthy for us to come back to our heart and mind about the truth we know about how our family r

=Opportunity Created By Attitude Not Age= Too many women think about their age. They don't just think about it, they have a problem with it. The problem is exacerbated when age is linked with goals women want to achieve in their life and how some goals get crossed off the list because of perception of age. The all important thing to remember about your age is: =Nobody does your age like you do= You might belong to an age bracket because you've lived as many years on this planet as the next person, but you do your age, like you do it, not like any other woman does it. One of the main things that determine the effect of years on your face, is how often you think about it. Women who think about their age all the time look older. Women who think about their age less, look younger. Another main thing that contributes to women aging is diet and lifestyle habits, initially determined by family conditioning and the culture she grew up in. You will look younger for longer if you eat a plant based diet and don't

=The Next Love Of Your Life Is Closer Than You Think= When we're consumed with other people, particularly unhealthy people: their life, their dramas, accommodating their feelings over our own, traveling to see them, thinking about their needs... we can't see what we need. We can't 'see' the next love of our life who could be staring us in the face right now. The love of my life whom I'm with now, I was in the same physical space as him a couple times a week for 7 years, but I didn't 'see' him...! I didn't notice him, I didn't recognise him as being the partner I've always wanted. I wasn't thinking about my happiness, my needs, my future, my energy- I was thinking about everybody else. And everybody else were not thinking about me as much as I was thinking about them. You might be spending too much energy on a relationship that isn't working and are therefore blind to the love of your life in the form of a man who passes you at work every day. You might be spending too much energy on an ex who wants to be

=Do You Achieve Or Sabotage? The Key Is Understanding What You Replicate= This is a fascinating message that if you can come to grips with it and apply it to your life, you can help heal from most of your problems. I'm talking about obscure things that most of us don't think about which are the emotions that were regularly played out in our childhood by our parents. For example, the feelings that dominated my childhood were sadness, anxiety, conflict and manipulation. I watched my parents behave in these ways between each other and with me, but mainly I learnt it from seeing how my Mum and Dad were sad, anxious, being angry and manipulative. They were constantly in those states and it was how I learnt to behave. I learnt to be anxious, I learnt how to argue, I learnt how to be sad and feel manipulated. I copied and pasted these emotions into my relationships and sometimes into my work environment. Even if I wasn't the one who caused the conflict, even though I wasn't manipulating another or causing anxiet

=Conflicting Desires & Manifesting Don't Mix= Many people want the extra job, the promotion, to expand their business or start selling their creations... but at the same time they're wanting this, they're thinking that the getting of it, will get in the way of something else. Eg. You perceive that the extra money you want to earn might get in the way of your social life, your spare time or your family. You want the extra clients, customers... etc but if you get them it means that you'll only be able to watch one favorite tv show, not the five shows you watch weekly. You want the extra income but you can't see how you're going to fit it into everything else you need to do. Instead of thinking I'll fit everything else into the time I've got left after I've earned the extra income, you're thinking that everything else is first while the extra income you want so badly is second? The extra income needs to be the priority. You might also feel that you've never reached higher than a certain level with your ti

Ex Heart Space vs New Heart Space When a woman gets into a new relationship, she is comparing her new man with the ex man. I don't just mean a comparison with behavior like she's waiting to be hurt or disappointed because she's been primed or conditioned by her ex. I mean that she's looking to her new man to give her a similar kind of loving emotional experience that she had with her ex. She's looking for the depth and breadth of intensity and intimacy to be similar, like she's quietly asking herself will my new man make me feel good like my ex man did. There's a problem with this kind of natural and automatic thinking, which is that she is forgetting that her and her new man are a new combination and a new dynamic which is different to the dynamic she had with her ex. Her and her new man have a new relationship and a new love and the dynamic is new and can never be found anywhere else. Just like the dynamic she had with her ex can never be found anywhere else. But it's to recognise that there is indeed a d

=Some Meditation Is Always Better Than None= If you're like me, you want to do things properly and devote a proper amount of time to things, which includes time to do meditation. I like to do 30 mins of meditation daily but there is the odd occasion where I can't put that much time aside. I think of doing it for a few minutes on those crazy days, then stop myself because I feel haphazard about the whole thing and it doesn't get done. Whether you're a regular meditator or you're new to it, meditation is worth doing for however many minutes you've got, wherever you are. You might only be able to do a couple minutes a day. You might manage to do one minute on the hour, every hour. You might aim to do 30 mins a day but some days feel too impossible for that, but right now, you've got 10 mins or 3 mins for it... but you don't do it because it feels like that short length of time is silly or won't make any difference anyway. You don't need to have all your special meditating things all the time before you can

Plenty of us have a problem room in our house, a space that is to waste, which we could be using for something important to do with our professional, creative or personal development. To reference another recording about using one candle to wake up a room that feels stuck or lifeless, this message is about speeding up the whole process by using lots of candles in the same problem room. There are many little sections of a room where different stuff is kept. Each of these sections build up with more issues over time, therefore, each of these sections needs a separate little candle near them to clear the stuck energy. Examples: You could have lots of unsorted stuff in cupboards- place a candle or two near there; There might be draws of receipts that need organising- place a candle near there; You might have some important folders that have gone unopened for ages- place a candle near there; There might be shelves that are stacked up so heavily with heaps of different things- place a candle or two near there..

= Is It Love Or Drama? = You might be in, or have been in one of those extra rare relationships where you got along extremely well together, you had a great love life, there was hardly any conflict, you supported and encouraged each other all the time. If not... the love of your life, might not be worthy of such a title. The man you love or loved so much, or the man you think loved you so much, didn't really love you the way you think he did, because he was giving you drama, not love. I'll pause here as you could be feeling very confronted right now... You can mistake pyrite for gold, the same as you can mistake drama, for love, accidentally. When you realise that's what you're doing to yourself, it can be extremely confronting, as it was for me. The lows were pretty low with my ex, but the highs were so high that I'd always forget how low I felt. I didn't realise that I was suffering with my ex. He was giving me drama, he destabilized me, he made me anxious, I was worried, I was sick, I couldn't relax.